She isn't worth your time, she is jealous of what you have w/ him ( HIM ! ) so don't even let it get to you!!!

I know it must be hard not to get into a power struggle with her. Maybe just write her a letter, say everything you feel. kepp it for a few days or a week. then decide whether you want to send it or burn it...or ..share it with your husband.
Take care

Don't waste your energy on her. Use the energy to do good things for yourself and move forward with what you need.

ok sweetie. stay away from her myspace. it is no good. she is using it to control you when she should no longer HAVE that power. you finally are in control of your destiny. dont allow her to hurt you anymore. th4ween is dead on, she is jealous of YOU now. please promise yourself you wont go there anymore. you deserve SO MUCH MORE.

I know how you feel. My husband's OW has a myspace page, and it has messages from all her friends saying how nice she is and how much they love her(puke). If only they knew she was ruining a family.

But, she isn't worth my energy, and neither is your XBF.

Also when I discuss with my husband some of the things she is saying and doing he sticks up for her every single time just once I would like to feel that he is on my side is there some thing wrong with wanting that is there something wrong with him sticking up for her like he does it makes me nuts

I know exacally how you feel mykoyle.sounds like my situation right to a tee...Things have been going great with me and my hubby ,so good that he asked me to remarry him again on our 22nd wedding anniversary which will be june of 2008.Anyways everytime i think we are happy and everything is in the past the o/w(which is also an ex friend of mine) does something to bring me back down to the bottom.my daughter came home from out of state for thanksgiving.we had not seen her in almost a year.Her and I went shopping the day after thanksgiving and ran into a friend of hers.Her friend mentioned that she had been trying to get my home phone number and was having a difficult time getting it.Come to find out my daughters friends mother inlaw is good friends with this girl that the o/w is friends with.the o/w told her friend about having an affair with my hubby.it got back to my daughters friends mother inlaw and she ran around town telling everybody about it and also gave my home phone number to the o/w.my daughter knew about all of this before she came home for thanksgiving cos her friend called her and asked her,which my daughter tried hiding it all from me cause she saw how wonderfull things with her father and i are going(or i should say were going)and didnt want anything ruining it.well needless to say i did find out about it lastnight and went totally off the deep end on hubby over it this mornnig...which is the first real time i have gone biserk over it on him. idont understand how a person could go out and have an affair on thier spouse and not have any shame or remorse or guilt over it..she is not ashamed about it but in stead is totally proud of it.i dont understand how she cannot have any morals or self respect or even a consience for that matters.i dont understand how she could show such lil respect for her husband but still be with him and try to work it out.If i went out and had an affair on my hubby(which i would never do) i sures as heck would not be proud of it and would not be spreading it all over town.instead i would be sooooooooooooo ashamed that i would not dare show my face in public.i dont no what to do anymore.I was sooooooooo upset this morning that itold hubby he would come home from work and i would be lnog gone and would not think twice about looking back.so he has been callnig all day to see if iam still here,Like i said things willb e gonig great for us and she will do something to knock be back down to the bottom of the pit.i know she is doing this becasue she thinks she can break me and hubby and i will end up divorcing.she is totally WRONGGG. how can i not let her get me down like this? how can i just brush it off when she pulls this crap? any advice would be appreciated. thank you all

she's looking for a reaction... don't give her one... or simply kick her ass then ignore her, but i would try to avoid this route since jail time may be involved.

some days I think jail time as long as I really beat the shit out of her would be worth it

You know you are a better person than her, don't let her actions or what she says on her myspace bother you. You need to concentrate on you and your hubby patching your lives together. Leave her in the past where she belongs and move on with your life. She can only continue to hurt you if you allow her to. Be strong, I know it's hard, but with faith and prayer you will get through this.

Hey, Now everyone can see what a cheap whore she really is and you don't have to say a word, she has lowered herself and did her own posting ALL ON HER OWN. I wish I could get so lucky !!

Try not to help her destroy you. You found out about it now but it is really old news. Also, your H as far as I can see, didn't do anything additional this time to hurt you. The best response would be to shrug off what she does (if he was involved it would be different) and then her actions will clearly look as useless as they really are.