Hello to you all.
Just joined today. My story isnt real bad but it still doesnt feel good. My husband is 15 yrs older than me. So I thought I would never have this problem. He was acting kinda angry A yr ago almost like he hated me So it prompted me to search thru his phone, etc. I found a print out from craigslist in his briefcase with a picture for a incall massage service. I kept quiet and didnt say anything at the time. Two days later I looked at his phone and it was the person from the posting texting him back. This was 2 days after he printed out the paper. He said he didnt do anything I caught him right away. I think he did. We really struggled but I thought we got pass it. 2 months ago I went thru his phone and found out that he had at least 4 massage parlors in his google map history. I confronted him and he had to admit he had been and got a hand job at the finish. I know this isnt as bad as having sex with someone but I am really struggling. He went to counseling, I went to another counseler but I am good for awhile then back to being pissed off.
He is a good man all the way around except for this big issue. I have days were I just hate him and dont want to be around him. I have days where it consumes me and I am mad becuase of this. I feel like I am waiting for the other shoe to drop so we can be done with this sherade. I need suggestion on how to stop being mad. As soon as he does something weird I start thinking he is up to something. He offered to get post nup to financially/emotionally secure me that it was done and not gonna happen again. When I called lawyer they said postnup dont stand up much in court and deterred me from spending the money on it. Today I even looked up how to put track his phone without adding an app to it. He only has a work phone and I am sure it is fairly secure. Any suggestions?
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