Well I am not the mistress however i think it depends on the woman. As you may know there are women who are serial other woman and they don't give a second thought to what they are doing because to them it doesn't matter. Then there are women who have been lied to by our H and truely had no idea they were married or had a girlfriend or whatever. So I guess the answer would be there are women who are both repentful and prideful.

I was a mistress for five years but not knowing. This man made me believe he was no longer with his wife. I found out three weeks ago that he never moved out of his house and that he is still with his wife, so I left him. I would not go out with anyone else's husband intentionally, I wouldnt like it if it was done to me. Now if I felt bad after, NO I didnt, I felt bad for myself because I was lied to for all these years. Honestly your husband has the blame, you dont know what lies he told this other woman. It is easier for us to blame the other woman, when reality its our spouses fault to begin with. Don't be blind, I know you want this other woman to feel bad for you, but reality is she doesnt. This is my opinion being on the other side. I have been married for 17 years, got divorced and dated this man for five years. So I have been on both sides. Hate your husband but dont hate the other woman because you really dont know what he told her. He needed to respect you, not her. He took the vow with you, not her.

The OW in my H life was a bitch to me and even after he finished it she would ring and ask if i was chucking him out as she wanted to live with him and would ever stop trying. She either has no brains or no self respect

my H mistress was an idiot. She had no reasons, guess she is just a whore. Hell she is also one of the biggest liars I have ever met. It pisses me off that she wasnt woman enough to tell me the truth. She even told her H that i wanted her to screwe my H and I wanted a 3some. That was the most messed up part, her H was pissed at me thinking I was in on it. That shows me how low down she is. Obviousley she had no concience and was a very selfish person. She says her and her H are trying to work things out but all I can say is that if she is still lying it will never happen. If they split I am sure she will come after my H as she has said she will go back to work there if her H leaves. I dare her. He already told her Id kick her ass. lol

Well for what you tell me than I agree with you as to that woman is a low life. She seems she wants her cake and eat it too. I feel sorry for her husband as to what type of woman he is with and cant even see through her. Then Im sorry to say she doesnt care to hurt you or your marriage if she is that way. Now the only way she can screw up your marriage is if your husband allows it. If he allows it than I make it his fault. He should know by now what type of woman he delt with. The vows are made between you and him therefore if you respect that he should to. That is if he loves you and feels he doesnt want to mess up his marriage. As to that woman I wouldnt give her the time of day, that would really get to her, thinking you dont care, trust me it works. Give yourself better value she is not worth it, and little to say dont show her that she gets to you.