Hi, I was wondering if anyone could help me. I have been married for 2 years now. My husband cheated on me right before we got married and during the first 4 months. I suspect another time with one of his work buddies girlfriend's friend as well. The first time he cheated he managed to get pregnant and I had to hand over the $375 cash for the abortion because he only had a credit card and the girl had no money. have tried everything from talking to him, crying, begging, pleading and he will say nothing happend or finally confess and then just lie and cheat again. 2 weeks ago, I found out he was "hanging" out with another woman that was activley pursueing him. When I talked to him about it, he denied that she liked him even though I knew for a fact she did and then we got into a huge fight about it. Before he hung out with her, I asked him several times not to hang out with her because I knew she liked him and he purposely defied what I asked. He threatens to leave me if I do not let him hang out and get drunk with his buddies, blow a bunch of our money that we saved or if I don't let him hang out at bars, clubs and "talk" to other women as he says he just wants to make more friends. He says he loves me and I don't undersand why he keeps lying and doing this. Just today, I found out he took out $2000 from our bank account and blew it on alcohol, possibly drugs and partying with his buddies. The best part is, he says I am a bitch, paranoid and ruining this relationship because he gets "no peace" from me and that I am ruining his fun. It has gotten to the point where one of my friends not his lied for him the last time about hanging out with that woman and that hurt even more as he manipulated my friend to do what he wanted. His friends always lie for him too and then he wonders why I don't want to be near them. He says "of course they are gonna stick up for me". I won't lie, I do not like to go out ot clubs, bars or other things of that ntaure because I cannot go anywhere with him without woman trying to talk to him or him being "friendly" with other woman. It doesn't help either that he thinks he is the shit because he always tells me "I have a mirror". It even hurts me more because all of this bad behavior he does he just blows it off and acts like he doesn't care. I ask him if he has any feelings and he says yea he feels bad but blocks it out. When I explain to all my friends, famliy and even my hair stylist they all say get rid of him and he isn't good enough and how much do I want to take, but it isn't that easy. We were best friends for 2 years before starting to date and I feel like if I lost him I would be out my best friend as well. I seek occasional counseling for myself because I am so upset with the relationship, but even that has slowed down because all I hear is get rid of him. He is not willing to go to couples counseling and at this point I don't know if it would help. I just found out today too that he isn't coming home for the night, so as usual I'm crying again. Does anyone think that he could ever turn around or that there is any hope?
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