Google keyloggers. Lots of info about it.

It can be done, but if your spouse is computer savy, he will know that there is a way to find out if his keystrokes are being seen by someone.

my spouse is NOT computer savvy....

I googled... I know what software to get... just not sure how to attach it to an email...

I can send an attachment that he would like to open (anything blond and naked will get his attention... yuck!).

Any ideas?

Sorry, cant help you with that one.

Try to google or yahoo "keylogger reviews" to see how, and if, the program actually works. I would imagine there is good advice posted in regards to the software.

Good luck.

You could just try confronting your husband (try the 'looking at him in silence until he absolutely must say something' trick).

If you get keyloggers, he might get conductyouraffairingerman, and then you'll have to waste money on expensive german language lessons.

it's OK - I speak fluent Genrman...

Don't know about the remote installation, but I have SpectorPro installed on both home computers. it is virtually undetectable!

There are key loggers that install remotely when sent via email.

The problem becomes, if the company the SO works for has a decent anti-virus software it will detect the softwares attempt to install itself. You are out what ever money you paid, you didn't get the info you wanted and you may have to explain what it was that you sent.

http://www.spytector.com/

it's OK - I speak fluent Genrman...Just had to laugh isn't it German? with that said, I almost went this route a few years ago. I wish I had confronted him. Just beware you might find some stuff that will flip you out (as I did) and then you have to be accountable for betraying his trust by going into something that really really should be private.

I completely regret going on to his computer and it only pushed him to the brink of thinking I was a crazy bitch and things ended shortly after that. And it's a great excuse for someone to walk out too. I've heard the saying and for me I believe it's true...If you think they're cheating they probably are. The person might deny it.

Above all KEEP YOUR DIGNITY. Sometimes it's all we have. Is this the way you really want to go????

If your H says the affair is over, and really wants to rebuild your relationship, then he should be willing to let you know what his passwords are, the moment you ask him. There should be no hesitation if that's what you feel will help you to rebuild trust. Ask him to let you have the passwords and immediately check his e-mail before he has the chance to delete anything. Of course, he could always have a separate account too, so it's not a guarantee. But his reaction could be indicative of whether he really wants to regain your trust or not. Just a thought....