
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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This is my second time posting so bare with me. It's been a year and 3 months since d-day, and I still struggle every day to get past this and move on. We have been together 8 years, and even with what he put me through I don't look at other men I never have. Yes I thought about cheating on him after d-day to get even, but I knew if I did I wouldn't be able to live with the guilt. Anyway we have a old friend that I haven't seen in over 3 years because his wife(girl friend at the time) and my H started flirting with each other big time so I put a stop to it. Well in the last 3 weeks I have run into him twice. I have never been attracted to him, and I have only had a handful of sex dreams in my life. And those dreams have always been my H and me. But last night I had a dream that that I cheated with our old friend, I don't remember most of it but I know we had sex, and when he kissed me goodbye it was so horriable it woke me up. So now I feel guilty, it has been eating away at me all day. I can't even look my H in the eyes, and I know I can't tell him because he will throw it in my face. Why do I feel so guilty?
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I'm not sure why you feel guilty about the dream. It could just be because dreams can feel real or because it was the first time you've ever had a dream like that with someone other than your husband and you're wondering why. The important thing is that you didn't do anything wrong. I'm not sure what I can say to take your guilt away. Really though, you sound like a great person with good character and that's important. You have a lot of good reasons to be able to hold your head high.
I will say that, although you should not feel guilt, the dream could mean what you think it means. My opinion is based purely on my own experience. many, many years ago, I had a sex dream about a co-worker. I was really embarrassed, because I had to see him every morning and I thought,what if he knows? Well, he didnt, of course, but the next time we were alone, at work, we kind of bumbed into each other and walla! The sexual charge was there, for both of us! we quickly ran the other way, we both were married and we coincidently never worked alone again, just kept a little distance. I did not allow myself to fantasize, I did not look for ways to talk to him, in fact the opposite, I did have he and his wife and kids over for dinner with my H and I. It did go away. the reason it doesnt, is it gets fueled, by flirting, fantasizing and making opportunities to be together. do not yield to this, if for no other reason, than you can tell this story in 20 years and feel as good about yourself, as I do about myself.
It is perfectly understandable that you feel a void, so no picking on yourself, even giving it that much attention is too much
Good Luck
I've had some amazing dreams over the years, which would make most people blush ;)
I have to say for me my dreams are a way to explore another side of who I am without being tempted to stray from what I thought was a warm and loving relationship.
My dreams always feel so real. Sometimes my hubby is in these dreams, sometimes a complete stranger, sometimes a colleague or a friend. I have no idea why, but it's always shocking when I wake up and I think to myself, oh my god did that just happen!
My hubby has laid next to me and watched me sleep on nights where I've been having the wildest sex dreams ever and when I've woken up he used to look at me and say he's never seen me so tranquil and he wishes he could have dreams like that too. But then, he used to want to replicate with me what had gone on in the dream in reality, which was even better!
I would tell him all the details of who, when, where, how unless it was someone I worked with or we both knew (there was nothing to be gained from sharing this with him and it would have upset him, even though it was just a dream).
The reason I am sharing this, is because sometimes a dream is just a dream. Sometimes you can use it to spice things up and open yourself and your hubby uo to a world of experiences that excite and titilate the both of you.
My hubby still says regardless of anything, the best sex he's ever had has been with me. No inhibition, all imagination and pure passion.
I don't feel guilty about my dreams and just enjoy every minute of them.