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Is this progress.Or a con.???

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Hi everyone further to my last post about facebook infidelity.I have some progress.We were going out for sunday dinner,when my partner called in the shop.He came back to the car with flowers for me an he said he was sorry for being a idiot over the woman on facebook.Over dinner we discussed further.Where he admitted he liked the attension he got from her.But that it was wrong an he wasnt willing to throw 10 years away for a woman on fb.I did wonder if i wasnt giving him enough attension with what he said.But i said nothing.He went on to say he had not heard from her for a week an he didnt think he would.Is this the reason for the turn around???.Anyway later the same day she was back in touch asking him to leave me an calling me the most awful names.It ended up us arguing all day yesterday because i said he was disrespecting by allowing the name calling.He slept downstairs last night on my insistance.She came online while i was on an again further name calling and telling my partner he has 24 hours to leave me.I went downstairs to show him and he wrote her a note saying I LOVE LIZ STAYING WITH HER.Again her reply was name calling an saying why stay with a mongrel dog when you can have me.And its his loss an that he will be back in touch.He replyed the morning telling her to back off an leave us alone.He then asked if i was happy with that.!!As if he it did it for me and not us.I be honest and i dont know what to think now im so confused is he genuine or is he just shutting me up.?? Thanks so much for reading this.
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liz,
I don't know about your husband, but for me, when I love someone I usually respect them and ... well... love them. Hence, if anyone called them names, I'd more than give them a two liner. One woman called my ex husband an asshole once for parking too close to her car. He had just bought a new van that day, and was judging how close to park and not only that, he had my KID in his hands when she proceeded to run her mouth. By the time I was done with her, she about ran from me.

I don't think he is neither genuine nor shutting you up. I think he had an affair with this woman and that has her royally pissed off. And I think he is TRULY disrespectful of you ( it takes that too, to cheat- to be disrespectful).

You could give me her name, I'd respect you more. :P

Take the blinders off here and see what is being missed. Something is, and in the meantime, tell your husband to grow some respect. It should come naturally to the jerk.
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When a guy cheats, you have to be aware that he is good at conning and lieing as well. Not to say that he is for sure. My husband phoned the OW right in front of me and told her how much he loved me and that he is definately not leaving and that she needs to stop bothering us. What I didn't know...is that as soon as I was not with him, he told her that he still cared about her and that he HAD to make that first phone call to satisfy me and to get me off his back. The bottom line is that you can't be with him 24 hours a day to see and hear what he says and does. You can't be on facebook 24 hours to see what she has to say and vice versa. Cheaters are VERY sneaky. Just be aware of that. I hope, for your sake, that he's now being honest with you....just don't let your guard down yet.
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Hello bagel
My thoughts are that I'm not sure here! Don't be fooled either, men that cheat are good liars.
All you can do here is keep your wits about you and try and work out what your H is up to. It all sounds a bit cloak and dagger to me.
Do take care.
Regards
Affable
deleted_user
deleted_user
Why keep the face book, have him remove himself from it permanetly. If he is really being honest, he dogging the two of you is not going to help. End it as soon as possible.
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deleted_user
GET A KEYLOGGER!!!! It will log all of his computer activity- then you will really know what he is saying to her. Can you get into his chat history when he is not there? You need all email accounts and all passwords. So sorry! Maybe you caught him just in time, but if it got to the point of her telling him to leave you for her, then it was most def. an inappropriate relationship- emotional affair. This is what my H had and it almost tore us apart. He has to realize he needs to fight to save his marriage. good luck! (((HUGS)))
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Your his wife he should be sticking up for you not her, he should be wiping her off FB not you. What a piece of shit your husband is and how dare he or she think this was appropriate behaviour, are they grown ups or just children playing games with other people's lives and hearts. I wish you luck but I would walk away and never look back and let them have each other.
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