. Will there be a time I stop wondering if "she" might be a better wife? or did they eat here? or did he get her one too? My husband had been cheating for 3 years with the same person they planned to get married in their emails to each other. I know the "why"- He was a weak person who put his selfish needs first. He admits this. At first my husband had a breakdown and cried all the time. I stayed with him and helped him through "his" hard time. We thought he was bipolar so he was back in the house 3 weeks after a stay in the mental institution. 6 months later I am still trying to repair our marriage. I wish it was easy to say get out and move on with my life. But 18 years together I am trying to give it a shot. But sometimes I feel like he is the "victim" and I am trying to help "him" through.I love my husband but I don't know if he knows how to be empathetic and giving just to give not to give and get. My husband is a good guy. His parents broke him down and did a hell of a job "parenting" I am trying to forgive. Sometimes I wonder if my husband cries for his "other" life. He literally was leading 2 very different lives. He assures me he is where he wants to be. I am so insecure now about everything. I am trying to forgive but I can't help wonder if I am being compared? How do you move past and convince yourself not to dwell on the past details about his "other" life?
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