Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I've had my gut feeling that my wife is being unfaithful. It seems as every six months there is an issue that's going on with the way she deals with males. I don't mean like casual conversation , but just something that doesn't sit right with me. One example... She took a trip to Chicago on business. The first night that she got there she scolded me for not calling her as soon as she landed to see if she made it in ok. Now, my reasoning for that is that I work in retail and cannot just make personal non-emergency phone calls whenever I feel like it. O.K. going to day two I made sure I called her after I got off of work. Of course she did not answer the phone. But 15 minutes later she returned my call and left a message on my voicemail. I called her right back after I listened to the message which couldn't have been more than 2 minutes later. She explained that she had been sleeping and missed my call. All of a sudden I hear a male voice in the background. So I preceded to ask her who it was. I'm thinking to myself.... I see why she didn't answer the phone, because there is another man in her hotel room. So she kept avoiding my question. So I kinda got ticked off and got off of the phone. She then called back about 15 minutes later saying it was the cab driver and she was at a club. Now let's get something straight... How many women can be dressed, hair done and at a club in 15 minutes? Another thing is, that she doesn't go to clubs in our hometown, because she says it's against what she believes in as a religion. She says she doesn't want anyone to look at her like she's not a child of God. Now if i'm not mistaken, if that's the reason you don't go to clubs in our hometown that should be reason enough not to go in Chicago. She's setting double standards for herself.
Someone please help me figure this out.
Someone please help me figure this out.
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I have been here before, a long long time ago and now I am back.Forgive me for not just saying what I want to say,even under a triple dose of antidepressants it is still raw and seeping and I am hesitant at revealing it as at least under the bandages around my heart I don,t have to look at how raw and wounded.My child was cleaved from my heart by his own actions. my child of ten,turning eleven...
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I gave my 2 week notice last Friday 13th. Now to join you fine people in a life of leisure and nothing else to do but to look out for myself....is it just me or does that sound pretty boring? My goal was to live to retire and I guess having to take early retirement because of health reasons wasn't exactly the way I had planned things. I just can't stay in that building that is reeking mildew...
If you need help spying on her PC let me know. I don't recommend this but if you need prof it may be there. Counseling is better.
Her story doesn't hold water, and considering this was a "business trip", are you sure she isn't doing a co worker?
Her turning it right back around on you is called blocking and deflecting. Not only is it a great tactic used by cheaters, it also is by abusers as well. Tell her you're trying to take out the trash, but that it won't answer your questions. Sorry, had to throw a joke in there.
I hate to see you/me or anyone else for this matter be drug through this CRAP. If they dont want us- LEAVE.
the blame shifting is all too common- to avoid the truth.
My advice-don't confront her too soon.
If you truly want the truth you'll have to have a lot of evidence before you confront her. They will always deny,deny,deny....until they just can't explain some things.
Start looking carefully at all of her cell phone calls. Do you see a pattern?
Is there a pattern that matches her business trips? check for similar patterns with her credit cards-although she may have a work credit card that you may not be able to access.
My H liasons with the OW ( also a co-worker) was mainly on business trips and conferences. That's when there would be a flurry of phone calls back and forth.
Sorry that you may be joining our sad club! There is always hope that you may be mistaken.... and also it may be very early in the relationship... you may catch it early enough to save your relationship. Stay strong.
If there was a coworker or something in her room, I don't see why she would avoid the question if the situation was innocent. Say the situation was reversed- a neighbor stopped by to tell you guys something when your wife called. Assuming nothing fishy was going on, if your wife heard a voice in the background, you would say that the neighbor stopped by. No big deal. The fact that she appears to be hiding something and her story doesn't make sense is a good reason to suspect cheating or some other form of dishonesty.
I would confront her and tell her that you KNOW something is going on. Be prepared for her to deny, deny, deny. There's not a whole lot you can do at this point. Also, watch her more carefully. If you can find proof, she will have a harder time denying what is going on.