My Husband and I had been married 10 years when he chose to have an affair.... that was 4 years ago and I still have not recovered. We did not split up and have struggled to stay together, but I cannot get passed 'the event' as I think of it - lack of forgiveness, lack of trust....I'm just lacking. I want my life back - the one where I loved and trusted without falter. I just feel bitterness. He placed responsibility on my side because I was withdrawn from depression - I'm rapidly descending there again. Any advice/words of wisdom would be helpful.
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