I have been married for 3 1/2 years. We have had some great times and we have had some hard times. To be honest, I love him, but I'm tired of him. Three months after the baby was born, I found out that my husband had cheated on me with a co-worker. I was surprised but not completely. I was more disappointed than angry. I even contacted the co-worker because she is married with a young baby and asked her how could she do such a thing. I never heard back from her. I've tried to forgive. We went to church a few times and have prayed about it. We went to a counseling session, but the counselor wasn't a good match for me. I want to leave and start fresh, but we have a 10 month old. I worry about what it would do to her. She would probably be fine, but right now, I can't imagine sharing custody of her. I miss her when I go to work, so I can't imagine not having her for extended periods of time. Divorce seems like so much work. We own a home, but with the housing market right now, we would definitely lose money. Neither one of us could afford that. Also, I would want to live near my parents, but there is not a large demand for my career in that area. I wonder about staying married, just sleeping in separate beds and being "friends". We don't hate each other. Like I said, I'm just tired of him as a husband. The affair is over, but that's not even the issue. The fact that it ever happened is the issue that I can't move past. Any advice is appreciated.
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