Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Is it beneficial?

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Me and my ex were recently communicating...and i was telling him how im happy i can be calm in this situation and that im not verbally or attacking by cussing him out etc..and this is due to the fact that i have decided to still reamin Christ like despite this crushing situation...and he asked why..and i told him that prayer and writing in a journal on a support group site for people affected by cheating is what is really helping me and healing from this situation...


so of course the first thing he wants to know is what site its on...because he wants to see the site..and im like no im not gonna give you the actual site name..as i know he will only go to try and sign into my account or read my stuff later to criticze me in the past like he did in our relationship...but i did offer to give him an address to a similar site but not the actual one that i have an account on...i think i did the right thing...or would it be beneficial for him to possibly gain membership in the site that im apart of as well?
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i showed my partner copies of my journal. i needed him to know how i was feeling about what he did to us. i found it much easier expressing my real feelings by writing them down, rather that getting into an arguement with him by trying to say it. im not good with words, but i could write it down exactly the way it was. i think it helped our relationship at the time, letting him read it. and it helped me also, knowing i could get my point across without tears and yelling.
if he judges you by what you have wrote,or belittles you, he is so not worth it. maybe it would help both of you for him to join this site as well. good luck
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I showed my husband this site and even bookmarked it on his computer. He has been here and read some posts and my journals, and I'm glad . It has given him some insight I wasn't able to. Maybe your ex will learn something by hanging out here for a day or two.
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idk my ex is crazy and i gave him a fake site to see how he would react to that..and he didnt even look at it 5 sec...he was just like i have a feelings this isnt the one you be on and im like ugh..how you figure that cuz u couldnt find my sn....but he was just on my myspace tonight and seen some guy that posted and said a racist remark about him..now my ex is trying to tell me that if im his friends i cant be friends with certain people...its real bad and i know that him having access to this site would do just that
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If you fear he will critisize you do not give him the opportunity to see your raw emotions.

Makes me wonder why you want to be with someone who you believe will treat you so disrespectfully?
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oh no..certaintly not! i am not with this individual any longer and do not plan on re entering in a romantic relationship with him..i was trying to see if it was possible to maintain a friendship but now i am questioning even that
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My H is the one who cheated; he is the one that found this site, for himself. He asked me to look at it, in the hopes that it would help one way or another. We are both on here. And it does help.
We can both write in our journal, saying exactly how we feel without wording it so they'll understand. For us this has done wonders.
This site has helped us both greatly. We can look at eachothers feelings, comments, advice; all w/o having to pry or be sneaky about it.
If he is willing to at least try, i would say go for it. You dont even have to tell him your sn. It may help HIM understand the situation and he may get advice from others that may help him, you or the both of you.
If he is not even willing to try, that says a lot.
Best of wishes
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I also think that it is very helpful to hear what others have to say that either can relate or have been in a similar situation. Its advice from someone with the knowledge but their not directly related to you/him with it, so its unbias advice. And it shows a lot about your character that your here and not "to proud" to ask for help/advice as we all need it through-out life; many are just to proud to ask...kinda like a guy asking for directions when its obvious their lost! lol :)
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my h knows about this site but he doesnt get online at all.. he will come and read a post that I want him to though and then think about it...

there have been couples who have both come on and posted and it was really neat to see and they did alot of good here..

if you think he will belittle what you are saying or use it against you then no I wouldn`t show him the site ..

if you think it will help him understand then by all means let him come here
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