
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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I have been "happily" married for 17 years. We have a 16 yr old, a 14 yr old and a 9 yr old. I have been pretty content with our lives up until the last week.
My husband has started hiding his cell phone or keeping it with him at all times. He will get a call and then walk into the other room so I can't hear him talking.
When I got my cell phone bill for the last month, it was almost $200 higher than it usually is. Naturally, I looked at all of the calls and found that there are 2 numbers on my husbands call list that keep showing up. When I did a reverse look up on these numbers, lo and behold I find that they belong to a woman.
In looking at the times on the calls, he has been talking to her? 6 to 10 times a day. Even staying up late and calling her after I go to bed.
I caught him on the phone the other night after midnight and he gave me some excuse that it was a friend whose girlfriend had left him. But when I went online to check the call log from our cell phone company, it was to her number.
My question is "How do I confront him?" as far as I can tell they are only talking right now, but what if they are not???
My husband has started hiding his cell phone or keeping it with him at all times. He will get a call and then walk into the other room so I can't hear him talking.
When I got my cell phone bill for the last month, it was almost $200 higher than it usually is. Naturally, I looked at all of the calls and found that there are 2 numbers on my husbands call list that keep showing up. When I did a reverse look up on these numbers, lo and behold I find that they belong to a woman.
In looking at the times on the calls, he has been talking to her? 6 to 10 times a day. Even staying up late and calling her after I go to bed.
I caught him on the phone the other night after midnight and he gave me some excuse that it was a friend whose girlfriend had left him. But when I went online to check the call log from our cell phone company, it was to her number.
My question is "How do I confront him?" as far as I can tell they are only talking right now, but what if they are not???
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Now, the problem is how and when to confront him. Keep copies of the cell phone records.I'm sure that he is emailing her as well. Do you know his password? can you find it out? typically people use the same password for bank account emails ,credit card emails etc. that's how i got my husband's. If you can't get the password there is alot of spyware that you can use. There have been people on DS in the discussions talking about that a few weeks ago...
Before you confront make sure you have concrete evidence because he will probably deny everything....
I wouldn't say anything to him at all right now-just be vigilant. Chances are it is someone from work-it often is... Gather your evidence, then have a plan, what will you say and do if he really is having a full blown affair?
he's cheating.... trust me-men do not like to have hours of phone conversation.... he's motivated by somethin else. Think about it ....in all the years that you have known him has ever spent hours on the phone talking to anyone? Maybe you-when you were first dating?
I have to disagree. Men who are cheating LOVE to have long phone conversations- I can give you the number of my wife's lover and you can ask him!! :)
But...also remember you need a plan-what will you say when you confront him? Are you prepared to throw him out? Demand he stop all contact and begin marriage counseling? You have to decide before hand and then stick to it if you want any chance of things working out.
The "friend" before this one 3 years ago I also confronted, she knew he was married and didn't care, she wasn't any help- refused to admit or deny anything. And because she didn't confirm, he never has either.
Not sure if any of this helps, hang in there.
He had to work this morning and went to bed early, when I went in to tell him goodnight, he was using his cell phone. So I just pretended that I didn't see it. I noticed before that he was trying to hide sending text messages while I was sitting beside him.
I went to bed about a half hour later and his was still texting. So he gets up a little after that and goes to the living room "because he can't sleep" I waited a little while, then followed. He STILL had the phone. He won't leave it laying anywhere.
We played this little game until about 12:30 this morning when I gave up. I guess I should have confronted him then, but I just didn't have the heart to get into anything with him, especially when I had to be up at 6am to get myself and the kids ready for work and school.
Is there anyway to find out the numbers that someone is texting to??????