Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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is he cheating on me?

deleted_user
deleted_user
my boyfriend hs become so defensive and picks fights over small things he puts me down and always threatens to end the rlationship.

recently he passed me a urinary infection

last week he said he was working night shift then i found out he a not been to work at all he said he felt ill and lied to me so i wouldn't worry

now again on a sunday night he has disappeared to bed early sayng he has a sore head and i am not to contact him til morning
deleted_user
deleted_user
Something is up...he is not necessarily cheating, but the signs are there. If you can sit down calmly and ask him directly. It will be the hardest thing you do, but you need to know what is going on. Good luck
deleted_user
deleted_user
If he's not cheating, he is going to. I personally think he is (Sorry) I get the same shit from my H and he is a 5-7X cheater. Don't call me or I can't talk on the phone and he doesn't come home and he lies or he calls into work. I hope everything works out for you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
something is up if he's not willing to talk to you. In all honesty he could not be cheating on you but simply tired of the relationship. He may be trying to get you to break up with him. I don't think he passed you a UTI because we can simply get it by having sex (not an STD) or well.... breathing. Talk to him-try to find out what is making him so irratable but beware you may loose him. If he can't realize how awsome you are then you should leave. Life is too short do deal with people who don't love us. I hope all the best.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I had the same experience.

The thing is it got to the point where his hiding stuff was so obvious that he was cheating but I asked him, he denied it and I believed him until I got evidence.

The truth is, I think deep down you know.

Good luck, I hope things work out for you.
deleted_user
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Don't be paranoid, but don't be chicken either. You must ask and be direct. If he denies it, then go with your gut. I wish I had had someone set me straight before what happened with us. Don't get used.
Garrison
Garrison
tjkdisel said "If he's not cheating, he is going to". I agree with that. If it smells like rain, usually it will rain. Trust your gut.

Being that secretive, it is either infidelity or he is planning a surprise birthday party for you.

If it is not your birthday, it is going to rain.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Try not contacting him for a few days. I know it's hard but if he doesn't call or stop by maybe he is trying to give you a hint. When I was separated from my H he would let his voicemail pick up & take a few days to return my calls. I was 900 miles away so I couldn't spy on him. Tell him you need to talk face to face and ask him point blank if he wants out of the relationship? It sounds like he's cheating-sorry! As yourself if this is someone you still want in your life? I know how hard it is & I'll keep you in my prayers.
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