AIT,
I did not suspect. You better believe, I listen to my intuition now! i am usually very intuitive, but NO ONE could have convinced me that my husband would cheat on me! I trusted him completely. If HE hadnt told me, I would have laughed in anyone else's face!

Now, I am so different and am going out of town for a couple of weeks in December. I wish I could afford a tracking devise for his car. i will never ever trust him again. he is a very good liar. I love him and am reconciling but never again would I trust anyone, after this.

P.S. Please check a post I wrote to you under "Can you ever forgive and trust again?" I should have just sent you a message, but did not think of it.

You are on the right track. Keep taking care of YOU.

AIT,
The post is "Second Chances".

The 1st time it happened, yes. But he wouldn't admit it until I found proof. The 2nd time, I had NO idea. I was blown away. About a year or so earlier I thought MAYBE, but turns out I was checking the wrong girl. I now say... go with your gut. Seems like it's always right.

I didn't listen to my intuition, even though I had my suspicions. Like Nave, I just never believed he would cheat.
I have used it since though, in order to get to the truth of exactly what happened-I confronted him with my gut feelings about a particular person, and when he realized I felt so strongly about it and wasn't going to let it go, he owned up. Only trouble is, I am also having 'gut feelings' that something may have happened in the past with my H and one of my best friends also, and am not sure what to do about that! Neither will admit it if asked I'm sure.
I think intuition is a powerful tool, and is certainly worth listening to -only trouble is, when does it stop being intuition and become paranoia??

I had such a feeling and I dropped hints all of the time, instead of asking him outright. Next time I will just ask.

your right and thats so funny because ererytime my hernia would pop out it the only time in all the years ive had it it only acted up when she was up to no good and i would always say something and she say see what i mean i always got deal with your insecurity id say cant imagine why and id say noooooo no reason right!!!!

I totally went with my intuition, no matter how many times or how vehemently he denied it. I ALWAYS knew this girl was trouble. I looked until I found what I was looking for - hard evidence. Can't say it gave me much satisfaction though. I'd have preferred to have found nothing, then I wouldn't be in this state now.

i always felt somthing was wrong. but i cant see the hints left behind. it happend 4 times, but not anymore. my trust is gone.

I had my intuition kicking in for a while but never found anything to prove it and H would convince me that I was ruining our marriage with my distrust of him. ON the day that I found proof, I first found out about a friend of mine doing something wrong and my intuition had been kicking in about her too. That's what finally made me decide to trust my intuition, cuz its' always been right before. I KNEW he was cheating on me and HE WAS! I had to find proof or he would have never admitted it. I will never doubt myself again, that's one lesson I learned the hard way.

I also knew in my heart that he was cheating. I confronted him on it so many times and until she walked into my house he denied it. He still wont give me the details but or all of them but my marriage is pretty much over so I guess it really doesnt matter anyway. I will never ignore my heart again

Oddly enough the first time he had an affair my intuition was so strong it got physical. My feet, hands, and nose would get freezing cold and my teeth would chatter. My tummy would flip flop. I just knew. Sadly, the second time I didn't know squat. He got really crafty and smart about things and I just didn't know. When I was contacted by the OW, I thought it was a joke at first. A really bad joke.

I had really weird feelings about her. He went away on an overnight trip for one of his activities (with a guy friend) but he was very odd while he was gone. 1 morning he said he was going to play golf, after he came home I saw the golf clubs in the garage (he was smart enough to take them) but I just had a feeling that he wasn't playing golf. If I had not been so trusting I would have been on top of it before it happened. Never again!

I ignored my intuition for a while,,didnt want to believe it...but now, I will always trust my intuition...if it tells me something is wrong, it probably is...

Hey Chemicall... get off this site... People here are hurting and we don't need you here!

Ok, ignoring that jerk, I didn't pay attention to my intuition either. I caught him the first time because I could tell he was on his cell phone when I called, and he didn't answer. Later I checked the calls and they were erased (big red flags went up). After that I started checking and verifying, and it wasn't long before he was caught. Sometimes we just don't see what we don't want to see.