I have been married for 10 years. We have a 2 year old girl and 8 year old boy. We have been having financial problems for a while. I have struggled with anxiety and depression and gained weight. We just recently moved into a new home that my husband did some trade work as a down payment. The loan doesn't look like it is going to get approved. To make things worse he is 34 and is having an affair with a 19 year old girl. I got suspicious and he spilled a little and now I know everything. He has slept with her. I know he still talks to her and it is not over. We don't have a contract on the house we are in and may have to move or rent somewhere else soon. I want to leave, but have no where to go. I try to set boundaries, but feel like they are empty threats. He suggested I quit my job a few months ago so he could get his contractor's license. So he does make more money now-- but is gone more too. I found out where she lived and showed up. They were talking-- but he thought I was psycho for showing up. He still says he loves me -- he just isn't sure how he feels about her. He has been honest and says he doesn't want to end their friendship. He still has an active sex life with me. He said he wasn't attracted to me anymore-- so I started dieting and going to the gym. Now he wants me and her! He even suggested a 3some. I am so confused. I know it is wrong to put up with it! But, with 2 kids, no income and no home in my name-- I am not sure what to do. Any advice would be very helpful. Thanks! Kris
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