Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
i have been married for 12 years, my husband cheated for 5 years i believe, we have been separated twice, and during one of our separations, i start seeing a man. we have seen each other off and on for 5 years, he thinks i am still separated and wants more, but i cant cause i am still with my husband who i dont trust, dont love , just afraid to be alone, finances is an issue. I have never been so inscure. i may lose this other man, i dont want that. but what can i do. what a mess i am in..
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What you're doing is cheating by my definition so you'd better make a decision. Are you going to continue using your husband with no intention of really loving him? You haven't even been honest with the other man and if he has any sense he'll have nothing to do with you after being played as "backup guy" while you tried to figure out your own messed-up life. I would suggest you set aside a period of time with no men in it so that you can figure out how to participate in an honest relationship.
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People get themselves into messes when they ignore the problems and think they'll go away. I feel for you. But, no one here can really help you. If you don't love your husband, you are using him. You are only with him because of him providing financial support for you...and a warm body to sit next to while watching television. As wrong as he is for cheating...which, of course, you're doing, too...you are wrong for using him like this. You've BOTH been cheating for at least 5 years if what you say is true. Make a decision. Either work on your marriage or get out of it. You can't have a toe in the Pacific and a toe in the Atlantic. Choose one coast or the other.
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i hear you, i am as much wrong as him, but mine just happened due to vulnerability, he went looking for his all the time, doesnt make it right i know. i dont know how i managed to do this. its not me at all. never cheated previously and here i am. never wanted to be in that category..
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