
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
You developed feelings for a man whom you were led to believe was available to reciprocate feelings freely and without consequence.
This guy has lied to you for this year by not telling you he is married.
You are NOT the other woman since you did not know he was married.
If you continue the relationship now knowing that he is married and the possible hurt and pain this can cause people beyond the two of you, than you would be the other woman.
Don't be the other woman. I know there are feelings, but is a man who A) emotionally cheats on his wife, and B) has already proven himself to be a liar to you, worth your affections and energy.
YOu deserve better.
i know it's unhealthy, but i've been down lately, because i have an abusive boyfriend.
this guy is nothing but nice to me, like an outlet, and i've told him everything personal about me.
there's some emotional connection.
Listen, I would be lying if I didnt tell you I am worried you wont- but from the bottom of my heart here are main three reasons why you should:
1.) This man is a liar. He has lied to you for a year. Who knows what else he is hiding? Remember, he will try to keep you around now. Hell tell you his wife is awful, sickdoesnt sleep with him, doesnt understand him. These are all things he makes up to justify his behavior to himself and keep you (his silly game) around. Dont fall for it. Leaving one abuser for another (and a liar is an abuser) is hell for sure!
2.) Remember that you deserve more. You deserve a man who can give his whole heart to you. One who will be there whenever you need him, not just when he can get away. You deserve one who will share you with his friends and family proudly and with honor.
3.) Think beyond yourself. Think of his family. They are already tainted by having a cheater for a husband (father). Imagine the repercussions for you once it is out in the open that you did in fact know he was married (with children)? Why would you want that kind of stain on you? Youre worth more.
I guess because this man knows you are in an abusive relationship now that makes me even angrier. He is preying on your vulnerability. I am sure you are in pain and it is easy to make the wrong choices. He is waiting for you to. He is feeding you what he thinks you need to drag you into this drama with him. If you think it is hard now, it will only get harder as time goes on and you become more attached to him (the lie). If women like believe in their own power as individuals and walk away, men like this wont prosper.
Get out of your abusive relationship(s). Keep yourself busy. Get some counseling. For once I am going to say it; take pride in yourself and get angry!!! This man has been horrible to you. You should be so mad you want to out him to his wife. You deserve more! You are a womannot the other womanyet.
Sending you strength,
Jax
Think about this-why did the guy lie to you in the first place? Because he knew that you wouldn't have gotten emotionally involved with a married man. SO what does he do? He manipulates you so that you establish an emotional investment in him, and THEN he reveals the truth. The pain you may feel right now by cutting it off with this liar is nothing compared to the pain that you, and possibly some innocents, are going to feel if you continue this relationship predicated on deceit.
Run away from both men as fast as you can!!!
i've told this guy he's a whore for not being faithful to his wife. he's been with her for only two years and says they married two young, that he never got a chance to explore.
the thing is, we get along so well, and our personalities just seem in rhythm.
it just kind of sucks, because i would have never been a party to his behavior had i know he was married.
it's so hard to get these kind of feelings, and then when you do, it's with someone you can't have.
Ayngel --- You don't want to that woman..... He is a lier and a cheat...
Just run as fast as you can.... You are too nice to get messed up with these men!!
Please think always that you need more than this kind of relationship...
1)You are not the other woman since you've been lied to; but if you continue you will be.
2)You are worth more than this. You should be a man's 1st priority and not have to be second to anyone else. You deserve better.
3)If you do continue this would you ever really trust him because he started out the relationship as a lie?
4)If he ever left his wife for you, what are the chances of him doing this type of thing to you?
You are beautiful. You deserve to be #1!
Do you really want to be a fly by night experience for him while he explores? I promise you wont be the only one.
This is what you have to understand- that wonderful connection you have- it aint real.
I know Ill get blasted by saying this but wake up. The fact that you are still lamenting for him has tragedy written all over it.
-Jax
I didn't know he was married, and I'm just unhappy, so I guess the fact that he makes me happy draws me to him.