My husband of 22 years (28 years together) has moved out (my suggestion if he was going to actually go with her to the "event') following an argument about him going to an event with a woman he says is "his best friend". He insisted it wasn't anything to worry about. But he made the choice of moving out rather than not going with her. Back to the beginning...He told me 5 months ago he was in love with her. He had fallen out of love with me. I was devastated and he was sorry. He never stopped the friendship but told her they would only be friends. We reconnected and worked on making our marriage work without the assistance of counseling (he refused on the grounds that he didn't want to talk to strangers about our private issues). He seemed to be doing well and told me he was falling in love with me again. We spent all of our free time together and enjoyed reconnecting. 5 months later, he suddenly becomes quiet and strangely distant. I find out after his "move out" that the OW has moved out of her 16 year marriage and into an apt. a week prior. He is now staying with his mother and is telling me he still loves me and is still in love with me but needs time to think because he is confused and wants more. He tells our 2 children which absolutely devastates his daughter and disappoints his son. Both have lost respect and are very upset at him. He is emotionally destroyed, and going through the worst case of self-centered mid-life crisis I've ever seen. But in my opinion, you don't love someone and walk out the door! He is feeling more sorry for himself, and less concerned about the turmoil he has caused. I don't even want to discuss the OW. I am sickened by her behavior and find it repulsive how she could wreck 2 marriages without guilt or remorse. I am having a hard time writing this as the mere thought of it all has me nauseous. I've seen him twice since (not because he wanted to) and he continues to insist there is nothing going on....he's got to think...he loves me...feels horrible...doesn't know how to fix this, etc. But he says he's not coming back right now. I can't even imagine divorce! Do I forgive this man I don't even recognize? Is he leaving for good? I can't eat, sleep, I just sit and cry. God help me....I am reeling!!!
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