that should read since I did not sign out in the first paragraph

I'm sorry but F... him. He has no right to be angry with you for doing what you need to do. If it weren't For him you wouldn't need to do this. He has a lot of nerve getting angry with you.

First I have to ask what you got caught doing? "Being caught" implies you were doing something wrong. Why would it be wrong to look for support? He has to support whatever you need to feel better. He is the one who started this. Not you.
Congrtaulations for trying to take care of your self!
I think they are threatened by suport groups because they think we might get strong enough to leave them behind!!!

Amen jemom. I know that is exactly what it is!!!

Thanks my friends.

-Jax

I just want to send some hugs your way. And I hope you follow through with this support group. You need that and it seems as though that's threatening to him. Shame on him for not caring enough about your feelings to realize you need support. *hugs*

WOW.. somethings wrong here. He say's you're weak. He must not know you; for you to go through all you've gone through and still be there (in the marriage) makes you strong! and what's this, "if you had problems before"? What the.. is that some sort of threat? and I have to agree with the F...him comment earlier, he is the reason you're here. You didn't ask for this, you didn't ask to be "here". You have EVERY right to deal with this situation the way you know how. If he can not be supportive... so be it. He threw you the curve ball; now, it's up to you. Take care, meet with your new friends, he's taken enough.. don't let him take this. You wouldn't have started it (this support group) if you didn't think you needed it. take care

This guy makes absolutely no sense.
If he was sorry for what he did, he would be encouraging you to go to this group and work on things, not acting like a jerk and trying to separate you from getting support.

You have done nothing wrong. God Bless you. Keep coming to this site if it helps you.

so what are you supposed to do just try and deal with the shit he put you through on your own... what a dick

my H knows about this site he sees me here all the time and has asked me what it is and I have told him... I don`t allow him to read as this is my safe haven..I have though read to him a few of the things that I wanted him to realize he has put me through..

anyways you keep taking care of you and if he doesn`t understand then tell him to go and screw himself.. you need the support and stuff to deal what he has put you through... lots of hugs for you and take care

personally, i think you should tell him he's got 10 seconds to get out before he gets 10 toes up his ass when you drop kick out the front door.
im so tired of these assholes actin like they run shit.

Mommy,
Weak people don't work on their marriages after infidelity, support others, as you do on DS AND start a support group in your neighborhood!

Good God, that takes more strenghth than I have! People who reach out to their community, especially about such a sensitive issue are a rare and disappearing breed.

Our planet needs more people like you. I am impressed with your ingenuity and courage.

Tell your husband that he is very lucky that you are allowing him a second chance and he had better try a bit harder if he doesnt want your generousity to run dry!

Good luck with your group.

Suggestion: Maybe make it anonomous, not necessarily affiliated with other anon groups, but for those who would prefer anonimity.

Thank you all so much. Your support means more than you know. I have made the decision that I am going forward with the group. That is not going to change. He is not taking that from me too.

Love,
Jax

My ex pulled that bullshit with me. told me that me going to support groups was just making things worse. Notice I said my ex.

Funny how they screw up and they find the littlest things to be your fault. It's a way of twisting the situation so that he is seen in some favorable light. It's an attempt at emotional manipulation... don't let him get the best of you. You do what you need to do to get by!