Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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I hurt so much..

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My H cheated on me and I am left with all the feelings of hurt, anger, and all the 'why' questions. Why am I the one who gets to pay for his mistake? My step-daughter is such a major part of my life, I couldn't imagine not seeing her. The hurt never seems to get better, the questions never seem to go away. To make matters worse he seems to think that his cheating on me is equal to me not telling him about money i had won(the'friend' he slept with is the one who stole it.) That was the first "lie" i have EVER told him. He knows what he did was wrong but seems to think that I am somehow partly to blame for his cheating on me because I lied to him??????
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OK, slow down..I just read all your posts. I do not want to be totally blunt, but what I have to say is how does sleeping with someone else have anythng to do with a little bit of money. I'm sorry, but he evidentally is not to be trusted at all if he is willing to sleep with someone else. And she is pregnant with "his" baby????? I'm sorry that you are going thru this, but I think that first you should be glad that youdon't have kids together. I know you love your step daughter, but right now you have to worry about yourself. I will help you in any way I can. Are you confident that this will not happen again. Can you get past it? What are the circumstances that this happened. How was the rest of your marriage?
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try this website for some helpful advice divorcesource.com
Lots of info on there that can help you!
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This time of turbulant pain and possible life uphevel can seem over whelming. It sounds like you're so confused and have so many thoughts of anger, confusion, etc you don't know what to address first. I'm a little confused about how much money was stolen and why your H would seem SO upset. I'd understand if it was a significant amount of money. How long did you ever "lie" to him before the money was stolen? In this newly crazed life maybe you should talk to someone that can help you evaluated your feelings, thoughts, and wounded spirit. Once things have calmed down and you and your H can talk calmly without finger pointing you can decided to stay or go. If you go hopefully you can work out a visitation/custody schedule for the little girl. Good luck...
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Oh dont they have to justify themselves in any way they can. THATS PROJECTION and if they looked at theirself which i think they are scared to do they would see that. Dont take it on board x
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To justify there actions they have to blame soneone. Tag your it. It's that simple. They are not going to take the blame ever.
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Dont even begin to believe him. Its the convenient and cowardly way out to blame one's own misdeeds on the supposed misdeeds of others. YOu squirrling away some loot is NOT part of a cause and effect relationship that led him to hop in bed with someone else. It is his EXCUSE not a reason. YOu are not to blame in anyway for his behavior.
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