I had an affair with my male "best friend" and now i'm a mess. I am married 12 years, him 10. All of us, my hubby and his wife as well did lots together. We both have kids who played together all the time too. He and I had a "connection" and it lead to 4 months of an emotional/sexual affair. It came to a sudden halt when his wife got suspicous. He totally denied everything to her and made me out to be the bad guy, when he was totaly involved with me for 4 months. I really felt I was in love with him and he the same with me. We talked about leaving our families some day and being together. When it all hit the fan, I told my husband EVERYTHING and we went to counseling to boot. Our relationship is much much better now and he is very forgiving. We live in the same town with the OM and his kids at same school as mine. I see the wife and rarely see him. I did try to contact him recently and I got a "Please dont call this number anymore" from him, then a hangup. I was devestated. What happened to all of his feelings? Were they really any? His wife is very controlling so I keep justifying it to myself that he cannot talk to me or try to contact me due to what she would do if she found out. I've ruined our friendship which really hurts the most, as he was my friend before a lover. I gues I'm just looking for some emotional support to get me through this. I know I need to forget about him but it is so hard to do knowing I can bump into him at any time. What hurts the most is him not talking to me, no explanations, nothing. Sort of just left me hang out to dry alone. For that reason, I know this is all for the best and my hubby and I are working daily on our marriage. Any thoughts or adivce would be greatly appreciated to help me get over the OM.
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