So I found last week that the man who I thought I was in love with was not who I thought he was. We had been dating for 4 years, living together for over three. He asked me to marry him earlier this year and I am 6 months pregnant with his baby. I came to find out that he has been married the whole time! He had always talked about his son who he claimed to have with his "ex-wife" but now I find out that he never divorced her and has fathered her twin boys since we've been together with her as well. She also had no idea what was going on for all these years. I told him to get all this belongings and get out of the apartment. It has been 8 days since I have seen him but its getting harder everyday. I know I have to maintain a civilized relationship with him for the sake of our unborn child but I feel like I'm caving. He claims to have tried leaving her 4 years ago but she wouldn't let go. Now his wife is just as angry as I am and says she is going to sign the divorce papers. He says he is ashamed and disgusted with himself and that in the future he hopes that he can overcome his sick problems and win me back. In my heart this is what I want, but how can I ever trust this man again? He lied about everything for our whole relationship and I do not feel like I even know who he is.
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