
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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I've read so many posts/discussions and so many of you can move on; why can't I? My H keeps saying to let it go; it wasn't anything (months long text/cell phone A with another W/co-worker), to move on. So, why can't I "get over it"? He has admitted it was wrong, he let things get out of hand, enjoyed the attention, etc... But he's NEVER said that he betrayed our marriage, he doesn't see it that this was an emotional A. Is that what I'm needing to hear to let this go? or is it because when he asked what I needed for him to do to "move on" and I said quit his job; he said "no". There are days that I drain myself, emotionally, just thinking about this, thinking about what they could possibly be talking about for 2 hours (at a time). Why they needed to be in CONSTANT contact, with each other, every day all day. From the momment they woke up, to the second before they'd fall asleep, they were in contact. Is he right and I'm stressing over this and I should just let go? I want to move on; I want to start a new journey; I want to get let go. But why can't I? Granted I don't trust him, right now; but, I'm sure those that are moving forward are having trust issues; but, are still moving forward. I'm sick to my stomach and need to get over this... And he says I'm driving him crazy because I can't let go and I don't want to keep doing that... Any thoughts?
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i hope things work out for you. take care and stay strong.
I think your husband is still portraying HIMSELF as the victim here; the "god, can't you just let it go, there was nothing to it, youre just bugging me".
He has not accepted the fact that he cheated.
He has not accepted the fact that you cannot just let it go.
And, he is still in contact with her.
OF COURSE you can't let it go. What did he learn? That he can do what he wants and desires, break your heart, and then do NOTHING except tell YOU to let it go?
How are you moving forward? he hasnt even admitted it was an affair!
A Bitter, Lonely Man
Would it be useful to let the other woman know that she is still causing a problem? If the relationship is innocent, so far, this might be a way to get it over with. I do think that my old bf was still attached to me in a way - not in love but still a soft spot. And that really got under his new gf's skin. There was no solution but to totally end any contact.
He is wrong to blame you, he just doesn't get it. Maybe a visit to a marriage counselor would help.