my husband has been having an affair which actually started before were married but we were in a commited relationship. I knew nothing about it. We got married when i was 7 months pregnant but we were engaged for a year and a half before we got married. Little did I know this trash was 2 months pregnant when he married me. I asked him why he married me and he said because heloved me and wanted to be my husband. I found out about the affair 5 months before our son turned 2, and found out that he had this child with her. He seems to be really remorseful and cut it off with her as soon as I found out. He says he couldn't tell me because I had already told him I would leave if he cheated/had a baby. This is eating me alive inside and the thoughts of his actions haunt me daily. He is really trying to make it right and says that he never loved her or told her such, he never planned to leave his family and that he asked her to have an abortion which she said she would do then changed her mind because she wanted him to be with her and she thought if she had his baby he would chose her. Don't get me wrong I am by no means a dumb woman and my eyes are wide open. I am mad as hell but he is my husband, that has to stand for something. I do not accept this child, maybe someday. He was not there when the child was born and does not have a relationship with the child. How do I stay with him and deal with his illegitimate child.
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