My husband stopped wearing his wedding ring two months ago and kept it on the kitchen window sill. His cell phone was no longer on the counter where it usually was. I became curious and asked several times where was his phone. The reply was usually something like it's in the car or why are you accusing me of something. In mid November, I decided to check the cell bill. I saw one number that was called too many times to count at all hours of the night and early morning and even while at work. AND.....nearly 2,000 texts to each other in about 4 weeks. He would send the texts within minutes of leaving the house for work, text back and forth all day long, and after I went to bed into the early morning. I did some investigating and found out her name. They have been in constant contact for four months now. I confronted him about this and he said she is just a friend and I knew about her. He claims he told me about her months ago when he ran into her at work. She is an old school friend. (She is six years younger, yeah right, school friend.) I do not recall him ever mentioning her. He couldn't show me how innocent the texts are because they are all deleted "as soon as I get them." Why delete an innocent text? I should think that if my husband has a friend that he spends so much time talking with I should know about her. Claims he doesn't know where she lives or where she works, but I do and I found his car in front of her house this week. He has spent several late nights out and recently didn't come home a few times. On his birthday, he slept at a friend's house and didn't call me once from 9PM to 1PM the next day. Guess who he did call and text (non-stop) during those hours. Yes, you know who. This "friend" is more important than I. Well we are headed for divorce court. He keeps saying I am throwing away the marriage. He is verbally abusive and has been for much of our seven years of marriage. He has always accused ME of infidelity and called me the most awful of tramp names. I always forgave him until now. I know he is cheating, even if not physically, the emotional connection is just as damaging. I believe he will be at her house tonight and I am trying to resist the urge to drive the five miles away that she lives to rest my exhausted mind. He called me a stupid F&%*ing C^%T(rhymes with hunt) this morning because I didn't wake him up. Haven't in three weeks. He was late for work and for that he called me those three ugly words. I need out and fast.
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