I had an A that lasted a little over a year. It has just been a year since the BS found out. I told her that I was sorry and would never do it again. Over the past year we have been through a marriage program, met with others to discuss our issues, started having weekly date nights, been more physically intimate, etc. but she still gets upset and says that there has not been true remorse from me.... that she doesn't think I understand just what she is going through. So as much as we've been through something is missing. I have started reading the book "The Five Languages of Apology" to learn how to apologize, but I need some advice on how to put the principles into action. In other words, how or what can I do to let her know that I am sincere in my apology and that I understand the pain my A has caused her? What does she need in order to forgive me? Any advice or thoughts would be appreciated.
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