I was the one who cheated. I was able to talk to my wife for a short time last night. I have finally gotten over what I was loosing and what I was feeling and started paying attention to those that I hurt and what they were feeling. My wife and children primarily. I expressed this to her. She said that it wasn't all my fault, we both played a part in the current state of our marriage. She also told me that she was able to separate the friendship of "US" from the marriage of "US". I wanted to ask her to explain that to me, but the conversation was going so well, I didn't want to risk causing any friction. Can any of you ladies who have been cheated on help me understand what she meant by this? Early on, in our separation, she told me that we would have to learn to be friends again, before we could consider reconsiling our marriage. I understand that now. But last night, after she left, we talked on the phone, just about TV shows and the like, we both agreed it had been a long time since we've talked like that. I am working on myself and will not give up until I am the man I want to be. I suppose I am really looking for someone to give me a little hope that she still has feelings for me and there might be a chance. That being said, I'd rather hear the truth. thank you, Mike
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