Well, I have posted my situation before and it is way too long to do it again, but now I have a question. How much space is ok? I am not blaming myself for my husband's actions and for the shitty way he treats me, but I found a note he wrote to a friend and he said basically he hates being with me all the time and that he gets annoyed. He hates that I want him to come to bed when I do and he wants space and that is why he runs off and shuts off his phone. Well how much space is ok? AM I supposed to let him go out with his friends to parties and bars without me? THe thing is with his history cheating on me several times, gettin another girl pregnant and acting like a male slut when he is drunk (he very well may be an alcoholic, I think so, but he says no) I have let him go out unwillingly without me and he is like I will prove to you that you can trust me and then he always screws up. I can't trust him and don't trust him. When I let him go he will A. Stay out all night B. Not come home for 2 or 3 days. C. Cheat on me D. All of the above. My husband's cheating isn't suspected either he has been caught and has admitted and even better, made out out with another woman in front of me then left me at the bar and left with her. So, can everyone tell me with my husband's history and all if I am supposed to let him have "space". I think it's a bad idea, but apprently this is driving him away by not having it. Either way I know the space thing is only part of it.