Never have I cheated or came even close to cheating on my H. Love means more to me than that.

I have NEVER cheated on my husband and even thought about it...

When I made my vows to him over 40 years ago, before God and man, I truly meant every word of them.

Too bad, that he didn't!

I have never ever cheated on my husband. Not even thought about it. I cannot imagine putting someone through as much pain as I have been in in the last 7-9 months. It is unbearable.
I also took my vows very seriously. We have seen the worse and now I am looking forward to better.
Isn't that what we all deserve is better. Who deserves this kind of pain. The infidels don't think before they act.

I never, ever thought about cheating on her. When I married her, she was the only person I ever wanted or needed.

I am with everyone else here. Never even dreamed of cheating on my stbx. I thought my wedding vows were going to be forever.

I would never do that to someone I love. I took my vows seriously.

I don't even think I could do that with someone I didn't love...I mean, how much sex does one person need? If the person you are with isn't meeting your needs then IMO you should move on. Right?

Well, that would depend on your point of view. I have never been married, so I can't say that I've made any marriage vows. But I can say that I have made a promise to myself. A promise to never get involved with a married man.

Unfortunately, I did. And as a result, I not only was the OW, but I cheated on myself. Which made my already severe depression even worse. (I can be really hard on myself.....but that is for another thread/community.)

Needless to say, it took some time (and counseling) to work through this. And I've come out of this mess with a valuable lesson. One that I hope sticks.....but I don't want to forget the pain that I was in (not to mention everyone else involved).....because if I forget, there's always a chance of a repeat. ("Those who forget the past are doomed to repeat them.") And I DON'T WANT TO REPEAT IT.

I never have. I thought too much of myself to ever stoop that low. My opinion is if you're unhappy enough to cheat, it's time to leave.

latrommi, I'm glad you got through it and hope you're doing okay now. *hugs*

It takes a lot of courage to come here and admit that, latrommi! I cheated, too, and never thought it was something I would ever do, and I AM married. I'm not a bad person, either! Many cheaters are very good people! They just got caught up in a world of sin and shame either due to their own selfishness, other issues, or both. As I've learned in counseling, I have a lot of unresolved emotional issues that may have led me to this. Some would say I'm making excuses - NO, there's absolutely NO excuse for cheating, but if we aren't taking care of ourselves spiritually and/or emotionally, we might end up doing something we wouldn't normally do! I just encourage all of you to take good care of yourselves! God bless!

If I didn't know any better it sounds like a lot of "high and mighty's".....but I know this is *NOT* the case, and hope for everyone's sake they do stay true to their vows. I got married and meant what I said about my vows and never ever expected to find myself emotionally attached to someone else in the way I did....I screwed up and have reaped what I've sown and have definitely learned much from all of this.

No one is superior to another because of their ideals and hopes...and I am also not a "victim" or excuse what I did....I didn't get married with divorce in mind. Now I am divorced and i made my bed and am sleeping in it....life goes on.

I have NEVER cheated on my husband, he suspect I did, I told him, he think everybody is like him. I never cheated even a boyfriend or a friend, loyalty, it is very important to close your mind to others because you are NOT AVAILABLE, some men are always available because they don't use the brain to think, they think with other part of their body...

so true. what gave him f'ing permission to go to bed with her? i never cheated..but hopefully I will. I've never..because I wasn't open to it. I have a date tomorrow

Both, And I'm still trying to figure out what possessed me to do it. I love my husband very much, and want nothing more than for him to love and trust me again, but I feel that's too much to ask. The worst punishment is not being able to forgive myself for it and the fact that he still stays with me even though he doesn't trust me anymore. I feel lower than scum because I was unfaithful.

never have i cheated

Interestingly I have been divorced twice, both women had cheated on me before the end of the relationship. The woman I have been with for the last seven years has also cheated in the last few months. I haven't cheated on either my wives or my fiance so now I'm wondering if it's me or my choice in women? My breath? Maybe the life of a hermit is my future.