I am new at this. Just joined. My husband has been having a year long 'friendship' with a woman half his age. She started out being our friend but ended up being his secret friend. Many times he has said she is messed up in her head but he meets her at places. He is old enough to be her father (he is 63). Problem is he is retired with too much time and I need to keep working to make ends meet. She is a widow with two children and has never worked. Native American, pagan is her religion. She has told him she is in love with him and he delights in the idea that another woman could love him. He told her they can only be friends that he loves his marriage and me. She gets furious at him for saying that. In Sept he told me he is finished with her. I believed him. We got happy again together. Two weeks ago I came home and heard her voice on our answering machine, he forgot to erase it. I was furious with him and her again. He had been talking to her all this time and again reached an end and asked her to return the trinkets he gave her, this she did. I also called her and we yelled at each other for almost 45minutes. Then I started doing some research. Found an old law still on the law books "Aleination of Affection". I emailed her the information to prove to her I was serious and would sue her if she did not leave him totally alone. When she read my email and the information she got real scared and called him while I was home to tell him never to contact her again. Now I wonder every day if it really is over. He also had a ring she had given him and returned it to her by mail. I just do not know how to start trusting him again and it is getting in our way of rebuilding our union together. Any advice I would dearly consider. I'm 60 yrs old and do not want us to part, neither does he. Help!
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