My H and I have been married for 30 years. I found out almost 2 years ago that he had been cheating on me for the first 20 years of our marriage. For the 1st 20 years he worked as a self-employed salesman. He never had to go out of town, but worked a local sales route. I thought he worked 8-10 hours a day, but he actually only worked 2-4 hours a day. He spent the rest of his time in bars and strip clubs picking up and sleeping with women. He of course claims he has always loved me and honored me. He claims he loved the thrill, the euphoric feeling it gave him to get away with cheating. It never occurred to him until 10 years ago that he could be bringing home diseases. It never occurred to him that he was destroying our family. That he had 2 children at home that counted on him. He claims he has not cheated in 10 years, because he came to his senses and realized how important his family was to him. In all actuality, he was fired from the sales job 10 years ago and now works in an office, the oportunity to go to bars and strip clubs was gone. My dilemma after knowing all this for the last 2 years is that I don't know whether to go or stay. No one knows any of this but him and I. Our children and family would be devastated if they found out and I don't know if I could destroy them with the truth. He is so good at lying it's ridiculous. I don't love him anymore and I never will, but I like our lifestyle to be very honest. And I would lose alot leaving. HELP!!!
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