Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
Hello everyone. I'm new to this site. My problematic history in more detail is posted under my journal. I've stuck by my husband through thick and thin. He always seems to put up a wall when he doesn't know how to deal with things. How do you get someone to open up?
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theatre and I are there already. I'm having a very berry tea with crackers, cheese and cherry tomatoes and she's having a joint with some beer and we're both on really comfy recliners on thick pile carpet. we need some help with the decor if anyone is around??
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I'm trying to exercise daily. I was doing fairly well until I sprained my ankle 2 weeks ago but now I'm getting back on the horse. Today I walked over a mile with my arm weights that are about 22lbs total. I was out of shape and it was hard on my arms. I also did my 30 situps. I'm also going to drink a lot of water and try to eat healthy. I do tend to have a sweet tooth but I'm cutting...
There are no easy answers, but I think that you need to use tough love..
Don't put up with his crap and if he won't open up, there is no way that you can heal...
If I read your journal right, this is a least the second time that he has have a affair... Whether, just emotional or physical... you really need to talk about the reasons... WHY???
They always put up walls, but we have to tear them down....
Ask him why he is doing this???l
If we don't, it will be hard to get past it...
Good luck to you!!
You seem to be the type where, if your partner does not pull his own weight, you pitch in and pull more. That would work if it were mutual. In your case, it is not working.
It is not up to you to tear down the wall, IMO. It is up to him to decide whether he wants to be the person you thought you married. I don't think you can do much to make that happen. If so, I think you would have done it already. Have you read the list of all the things you have tried?
He has the wall up because he is hiding something.
He has the wall up to keep you out.
The wall is not some kind of accident that he needs a hand to dismantle and then he'll say, 'whew'. I'm glad you helped me with that.
It is his coping strategy. He will fight like hell to keep it up. If you somehow get it down, he will construct another one. He already has.
I guess I am pessimistic! I'm sorry. Bu that is how I see it.
I have had to abandon my dream house, my 'normal' family, my financial security, my dreams of love. But things are going to be better now.