It's been 4 weeks since I found out about my H's "emotional" affair with another woman. We've been working things out together and it's been alright. We have good days and bad days. He's trying to make things right between us and I am trying to be the good person that I always am in not constantly harping over the affair and not constantly asking questions. BUT, he works with this woman. It's very hard and at this particular time, he cannot switch jobs. So, I am dealing with that as well. My therapist thinks that I need to try and start to believe he's being honest with me in order to heal. That there is no way that things will get better if I mistrust him. How do I do that? How do I begin to think he's not lying when he's been able to do it so easily for 4 months. I know everyone says that it takes time, but I guess it's not getting better for me as quickly as I would think. I want this to work out to very badly and when we are together, it's wonderful. We have fun, we communicate, we laugh - it's great. But I can't help but think that he's thinking about her, that he's speaking to her, that he can easily be with her without me knowing. Is this really going to work with us?
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