Why am i so stuck on the how could he do this to me scenario. My husband is gone, has abandoned his wife and child for another woman and her children. I know it, i see it. i realize it yet some mornings i wake up with that sinking how could he really hurt me like this? It started with a work affair. When i asked him about it he said she was his friend and he would not give up his friendship with her. In a week this turned into our sex life sucks. "i am not in love with you" and if i had met her first we might not be married now. I actually knew the first day that he was gone and the more i tried to talk to him the more abusive (this is emotional abuse is it not?) he became. telling me he admires her and wants to help her. I just became heart sick. This woman could care less about his family-just her own and he turned it all over to her completely. Now he is saying he left me because he just didn't love me anymore and she just hurried it along. Does it add up to you? I never saw any unhappiness in him. maybe a little boredom but nothing cheatable nothing divorce causing--nothing discussed. After the shock i keep trying to figure out my part in all of this. OK maybe we got too busy with life and chores but i loved my life with him i loved taking care of my family. i feel he did not become unhappy until her and he was soooo flattered. Leave me, reject me and hurt me but don't say that marriage was not a good one. It was for me. I think i was just dumped for a younger perkier woman. Happens all the time doesn't it? This whole site is about people who just "fall out of love" and bail on each other. I am just so miserable, OK time. OK work on yourself, OK don't be angry, OK forgiveness, OK pay the bills, OK i get to do all the lawn work and child care. OK he goes on to his happy life and seems to laugh in my face. What, tell me WHAT can one person do?
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