Dont let a cheating heart leave you bitter.You have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince/princess.Dont give up on women.We are all different and there are lots of people in this life whose morals va;ues and feelings are the same.you will find that.Dont give up hope.hugs to you jo

Right now, the thought that she's in his arms absolutely makes me sick. In fact, I actually did throw up a little while ago when I found out.

So sorry for your pain, I know how much this must hurt and it is easy to think there are no decent people left in the world but believe me there are. My husband has had two affairs and left me both times yet I was never anything but a faithful and supportive wife.

Perhaps you jumped into the new relationship too quick and missed some of the warning signs that your girlfriend wasnt quite what she seemed. It's a mistake we have all made at sometime

There won't be another time. I'm done. Everyone is about to get exactly what they wanted. I'll never bother anyone again with my love that nobody can accept.

I understand your pain. Cheaters belong WITH cheaters. Its those of us who DON'T cheat who get hurt by unfeeling, uncaring louses.

RobertG... I am so sorry for your pain. Please know that what you are feeling is absolutely normal.

Did you get counseling after your wife's affair?? I really suggest that you do this now if you did not. You are going to need the support and therapy to work through this grief without getting stuck in anger.

You deserve so much more. We are often most attracted to those who are different than us... cheaters to non-cheaters, and vice versa. We usually make relationship choices based on our feelings instead of a rigorous mental process:) I think it is a matter of making better choices instead of putting all women in the same category.

(((((hugs)))))))) Take care of yourself please!! And find a counselor asap. JB

I totally understand how you feel. Its ahorrible feeling to be betrayed by more than one person especially when these people were all supposed to love you and have your best interest at heart. Believe I know. I don't trust myself to choose friends or anybody else to get close to. I refuse to let anybody in. Then I can't get hurt...but I am still trying not to be bitter and I am trying to concentrate on the wonderful people I do have in my life. Just like scousejo said...Don't let a cheating heart leave you bitter...they are not worth it and you are so much better. All the best to you. Good luck!!

Have you ever wondered if you jumped into this second relationship without resolving your issues with the first wife? Are you still married? Is there a chance this girlfriend felt like you still loved your wife? She didn't want to be the rebound girl? Really, it was only a matter of months and your putting a lot of emotions onto this girlfriend. Do you think it was to much to soon? That's a lot of "stuff" for someone else to handle.

Either way, I do believe when dealing with trama a person needs counseling to help sort out things.

I'm sorry you are going through this. Hang in there, with help it does get better.

First off, how old are these women you are getting involved with? I saw the pictures in your profile and they look much younger than you. Perhaps you just need someone more mature and more stable in your life. Some women will take advantage of men with a good nature.

Is it possible that you are just choosing the wrong women? I think it is. You are you and you don't need to worry about whether you can keep another person happy. A person cheats because THEY aren't happy and they can't be made happy. You can't control what someone else will do, only yourself. I'd suggest getting counseling.

Don't let these women decide WHO you are and what kind of person you are going to be. You're better than that.

First of all, I had a counselor, but lost him when I lost my insurance. Right now, insurance is not an option and paying for a counselor is not an option.

Yeah, I like them a little younger than I am. Here;s my reason: women my age are usually at the phase of their lives where they are shipping their kids off to college, looking toward the next phase of their lives, and being middle-aged. Or (and please don't get offended anyone) they are bitter after a divorce or two and the "spark" and trust are long dried-up.

I am NOT at that phase yet. I never had kids. I WANT kids. That's very important to me. I need someone who is in the phase of just learning about love and wanting to build a family and all of that. Someone my age is past that. If I found someone my age with those qualities, I'd gladly date them, but I have never known one.

FWIW, my stbx is 25. I'm 37. Her boyfriend that she replaced me with is 38. (she said in her country that age difference is very normal). Now, my girlfriend is a bit young. She's 22. But, other than this crap, she ACTS a lot more mature than that. I tend to look for "mature" young women. For instance, one of my best friends just turned 25 and is an airline pilot--not small planes but A320's. (too bad she's married). THAT is the type of young women I look for. Not immature kids worrying about gossip and such.

Does that make sense?

Is it possible I'm choosing the wrong women? I'm not sure. Actually, they choose me. I have to tell you that I've asked out literally 1000's of women in the last 20 years and the ones you read about are literally the only ones that said Yes. The rest were rejections. I've heard every excuse in the book. Hey, the latest one was a classic: You live too far away. (she lives in the next city, about 5 miles away from me). Hell, in South Florida, one has to drive more than 5 miles to buy gas or groceries sometimes! What do I call that? A lie. An excuse.

Update: I just tried her phone again (didn't expect anything, honestly) and it is ringing NORMAL now. That probably means she's back in town.

This is going to be interesting. I can't wait to see what her explaination is. If I had a video camera, it would probably be worthy of a Grammy...