
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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First time, wife got pregnant by her boyfriend and left me. She's now 8 months pregnant. She was my life...
Then, I met a girl who helped me through some of the problems with my wife and we started dating. 6 months later now, and she "disappears" two days ago. Nobody knows where she is, supposedly. But, a source just told me that she actually flew to New York with this guy she met. They even showed me emails telling him how it was so wonderful to wake up in his arms and all that crap!!!! (they hacked into her email) WTF?
My girlfriend is constantly telling me how much she hates my stbx for what she did to me. But, she's doing exactly the same thing! What's worse is that she knows what I am going through and she chose to do this anyways. She's WORSE than my wife!!!!
I'm totally convinced that no woman could ever be faithful to me. I'm always faithful. I NEVER cheated on my wife, even with the problems we had. And, I've never cheated on my girlfriend!
Then, I met a girl who helped me through some of the problems with my wife and we started dating. 6 months later now, and she "disappears" two days ago. Nobody knows where she is, supposedly. But, a source just told me that she actually flew to New York with this guy she met. They even showed me emails telling him how it was so wonderful to wake up in his arms and all that crap!!!! (they hacked into her email) WTF?
My girlfriend is constantly telling me how much she hates my stbx for what she did to me. But, she's doing exactly the same thing! What's worse is that she knows what I am going through and she chose to do this anyways. She's WORSE than my wife!!!!
I'm totally convinced that no woman could ever be faithful to me. I'm always faithful. I NEVER cheated on my wife, even with the problems we had. And, I've never cheated on my girlfriend!
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Did you get counseling after your wife's affair?? I really suggest that you do this now if you did not. You are going to need the support and therapy to work through this grief without getting stuck in anger.
You deserve so much more. We are often most attracted to those who are different than us... cheaters to non-cheaters, and vice versa. We usually make relationship choices based on our feelings instead of a rigorous mental process:) I think it is a matter of making better choices instead of putting all women in the same category.
(((((hugs)))))))) Take care of yourself please!! And find a counselor asap. JB
Either way, I do believe when dealing with trama a person needs counseling to help sort out things.
I'm sorry you are going through this. Hang in there, with help it does get better.
Is it possible that you are just choosing the wrong women? I think it is. You are you and you don't need to worry about whether you can keep another person happy. A person cheats because THEY aren't happy and they can't be made happy. You can't control what someone else will do, only yourself. I'd suggest getting counseling.
Don't let these women decide WHO you are and what kind of person you are going to be. You're better than that.
Yeah, I like them a little younger than I am. Here;s my reason: women my age are usually at the phase of their lives where they are shipping their kids off to college, looking toward the next phase of their lives, and being middle-aged. Or (and please don't get offended anyone) they are bitter after a divorce or two and the "spark" and trust are long dried-up.
I am NOT at that phase yet. I never had kids. I WANT kids. That's very important to me. I need someone who is in the phase of just learning about love and wanting to build a family and all of that. Someone my age is past that. If I found someone my age with those qualities, I'd gladly date them, but I have never known one.
FWIW, my stbx is 25. I'm 37. Her boyfriend that she replaced me with is 38. (she said in her country that age difference is very normal). Now, my girlfriend is a bit young. She's 22. But, other than this crap, she ACTS a lot more mature than that. I tend to look for "mature" young women. For instance, one of my best friends just turned 25 and is an airline pilot--not small planes but A320's. (too bad she's married). THAT is the type of young women I look for. Not immature kids worrying about gossip and such.
Does that make sense?
Is it possible I'm choosing the wrong women? I'm not sure. Actually, they choose me. I have to tell you that I've asked out literally 1000's of women in the last 20 years and the ones you read about are literally the only ones that said Yes. The rest were rejections. I've heard every excuse in the book. Hey, the latest one was a classic: You live too far away. (she lives in the next city, about 5 miles away from me). Hell, in South Florida, one has to drive more than 5 miles to buy gas or groceries sometimes! What do I call that? A lie. An excuse.
This is going to be interesting. I can't wait to see what her explaination is. If I had a video camera, it would probably be worthy of a Grammy...