
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Firstly, I have not had an affair.Not physically anyway.
I have had an emotional affair with a man I have never met. Distance has made it somewhat safe.
We are both aware of the connection we have and feel very strongly for each other. This has frightenened us both as we are married. For a while, we stopped communicating in the hope of forgetting each other. We are both morally torn.
Now, I have the opportunity to meet this man. Neither are sure if we should meet.We also know that by meeting, we may do something we may regret. Neither wants to hurt our partners.
Should I talk to my husband about this? I dont want to hurt him. I need some guidance please. I do not want him to be a victim of my act.
I have had an emotional affair with a man I have never met. Distance has made it somewhat safe.
We are both aware of the connection we have and feel very strongly for each other. This has frightenened us both as we are married. For a while, we stopped communicating in the hope of forgetting each other. We are both morally torn.
Now, I have the opportunity to meet this man. Neither are sure if we should meet.We also know that by meeting, we may do something we may regret. Neither wants to hurt our partners.
Should I talk to my husband about this? I dont want to hurt him. I need some guidance please. I do not want him to be a victim of my act.
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* An affair is an affair is an affair.
* A "connection" based on what? Let me guess: you have similar interests.
* Do NOT meet this person. Unless you end your current marraige and then do whatever you want. That way, the choices that you make affect only you.
* You say that you do not want to hurt your partner. So DON'T.
* Yeah, talk to your hysband about it. "Honesty is the best policy". It is one of the world's oldest sayings for a reason.
* You say that you do not want to hurt your husbacd by your actions. So stop the actions.
You know all of the answers - I give you credit for coming out and saying it in a way. Not all people involved in infidelity can say that in front of other people in any medium.
Now what are you going to do about it?
Imagine that you are a person that wants to be happy. You believe in fairy tales like "love", "honesty", "commitment" and "forever".
You plan out your life - the next day, the next week, the next year, the next house, the next step in a family, all of the possibilities of these and more - around one person.
Now, also measure all of the costs: the time that you put in, the emotion and tears, the luaghs and the fears. Assets that are not restocked as easily as money or belongings.
Now imagine feeling sick every day. Pains in your chest with worry, uncertainty and fear. Not being able to sleep or eat. Crying so hard that you cannot talk or work.
You rethink your beliefs. "Forever" is just a word. "Love" is a Hallmark trademark. "Honesty" is just a word in the dictionary.
Shove a knife in your chest. Twist it around a little. Now take it out and wait, wait for a long time for it to heal. And then, after it has healed as much as it can, stick the knife in again. In the exact same spot.
Throw away everything that you have. Toss it, burn it, whatever. Now try and live with that.
I know that it may have been over the place, but hust a few things on how it would feel like to be a victim of this.
You asked.
Yes, please go tak to your husband. He may be upset, but I'm sure you can imagine how much more devastated he would be if you went to him after you met the other man.
Good luck
I encourage you to tell your husband what you've done. You're likely to go through with it or meet someone else unless you start talking to your husband about your marriage. You are communicating personal things with a person you don't even know. He could be the serial killer they are secretly looking for in the next state and you are just one of the other 10 ladies he's talking to in order to get one of you alone somewhere. Think about it. What you are doing is reckless and potentially devastating to so many people.
Just a question - how would YOU feel if this were flipped around and your H had this "connection" with some woman online that he is so INTRIGUED by her that he just HAS TO go see her before he goes crazy. Would you feel hurt, betrayed, sad, mad... how would you really feel? Would you want him to go meet her? Would you want them to be hugging and kissing and making love ALL night long while you are sitting at home and have NO clue?
Anyway...I guess you probably get it. If you DO GO and meet this person- I HOPE ITS NOT MY H!!
Believe me. I have been where you are.