My husband and I have been married for over 12 years and have been together for 20. We also have 5 kids. Weve had some arguments throughout the years about him not being considerate about my feelings and not being affectionate enough. Hed treat me like a roommate a lot of the time. Hes not a drinkernever hung out with the guys after work never went to bars..etc. He is was a good father and we both served at church together. Most of the time we where goodbest friends.
Well this year has been rough, starting with the birth of our daughter in March. She was born with down syndrome. We bought a house and brought his elderly parents to live with us and within 3 weeks his dad was in intensive care on Life support. Weve had his family there every weekend since the beginning of sep. We havent gone anywhere or had friends over since we moved in. Plus some other pressures. He missed my birthday and I was upset. So he got an attitude and it all unraveled from there.That was nov 9. He only talked to me when he needed to and forget sex. Hed stay as far away from me in bed as possible. I kept getting upset and threatened to divorce himHAlittle did I know. But Halloween we were lovey dovey as well as around the 14th when we picked up our new trailer. After that he started disappearing and having to go get something working 12 hour shifts everyday.then said he wasnt in love with me anymore. Hes not a yeller and never got angrymaybe thats the problem. Thanksgiving with his whole family therehe disappeared. The next day I was talking to a coworker and she said her husband had gone through a type of mid life crisis at this age and it would pass.but I should check up on him. I had already agreed to live with him as roommates as long as there was no one else. He swore hed tell me. This man never lied to mehes really a horrible liar so he never bothered. Well that night I came home and checked the cell phone bill and found an odd number.it started on the 18th of nov. There where several calls a day and some at 11pm and 3 in the morning. The times he got off work. I called him and asked who this was.he paused and said oh well Ive been talking to this girl from work. I proceeded to lose it. I couldnt believe it! All of a sudden hes screaming at me.dont you get itIm not in love with you I havent been for a long time and Ive just been in denial! Theres nothing between usshe makes me feel alive and you make me feel dead inside OMGI thought I was going to die on the spot. Well the next day the kids and I left. We are now in our trailer.and hes heavily dating this 21 year old girl. I have called her and textd her and she claims that this is between him and I and she can neither help nor hurt the situation. She knows hes married and has 5 kids and she just doesnt care. They work at the same plant, thats how they met. He wont talk to me and hasnt called to see his kids. My babies are so hurt and our only son (16) is furious.His whole family is in shock as well as are our friends. This whole thing is just SO far out of character for him. It's like he's possesed. I have been praying everyday and serving at church again and Gods been so good! I keep having this softening on my heart I dont yell at him and Im calm when I talk to himI feel Gods telling me not to let go yet..I just cant help but wonder if hell never come out of this or even worseget her pregnant. He swears he isnt sleeping with herthey just go out and have fun.but I cant believe it. Any advice would help