I'm new here. I want to get honest feedback to help me face some things and move on.

I left my husband a week ago after finding out that he cheated on me. Once was about 4 years ago. I had my suspicions but I regret that I chose to be in denial because I didn't want to leave him. He had been hanging out with a girl from work for 2-3 months and claims they only had sex once. He then said that she called and called him a lot trying to get him to leave me and he had a difficult time getting rid of her. I find it hard to believe they only had sex just once and she wanted him to leave me for her.

At the same time he finally admitted to this past affair, he told me he is attracted to a receptionist at work. They've been having lunch often, he finds her to be nice, pretty, and he can talk to her in a way he can't talk to me. He told her all about our problems. He had started to work out more and was dressing extremely nice for work. He had become very cold to me and told me we were just roommates and that's all we would ever be anymore. He clearly had feelings for someone else yet he wouldn't leave me. He insists he and this girl are just friends but my gut feeling tells me he not only fell in love with her but things got physical as well.

I left and I have no intentions of going back. We were married over 11 years. It is painful for me to discuss all of this but I wonder if facing some hard truths would be better than trying to repress it. I don't want to become obsessive either. I want to heal and I want my next relationship to be with someone who would never do this to me.