
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...
I never did one thing to his whore. But to this day she comes first.
My H also lost the respect of our son when he asked if he could go to a friends party instead of staying at our son's birthday party. My H really wanted to go spend time with his whore and didn't think our son would mind. My H also spent my son's entire family birthday dinner on the computer emailing his whore. We didn't find out about the affair until 4 days later.
To this day he has never appoligized to any of us. He walks around like he is the king and its up to us to make him happy. He doesn't think he did anything wrong. She always come first.
A shell cannot be happy. And when that shell crumbles, and he realizes that he has lost you and a child, you will see.
He wrote quite a letter back, telling me he's been thinking of killing himself a lot lately, that he's a bad person, etc. it seems he's quite miserable and hurting more than I realized. I know the feeling like we suffer and our cheating spouses seem so happy. I wanted to tell you this so you'd know that your stbx may be a lot more miserable than he seems. Also, these marriages that began out of affairs have like a 90 some percent failure rate, so they have a lot of problems coming at them. If he's remotely happy now with the situation, i doubt it will last long. His little fairy tale will come crumbling down probably a lot sooner than he'd ever imagine. And the whore will get her share of misery too. Don't let their happy act fool you, this will be awful for them sooner or later if it isn't already.
For right now, be concerned about yourself. Love yourself, take great care of yourself. The best revenge you can get on them is to go our and live your life. I know it hurts and it does take time to heal. But, you can help yourself through this time and you're doing a good thing by being in this support group. DS has helped me a lot. Also, so has counseling and antidepressants and meeting a new group of people from meetup.com. It can help to lean on friends and family some too and you've always got friends here to support you.