
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Yesterday was a bad day for me don't really have a reason why just I felt worse than most days, when my husband gets home from work he finds me in the bathroom trying to have some quiet time of course that never happens at my house. Any ways he can see that I am having a bad day so he tries to tell me all the good things in my life and how things are not as bad as I am making them out to be. I told him I know I have great kids a nice house nice cars all that stuff I know that but I also have a husband I can not trust and don't know if I will ever trust again he tells me that all I am doing is feeling sorry for myself if I would just quit doing that I could feel better. I dont feel i am feeling sorry for myself, my husband and my best friend and a sexual affair for four months I told him what the hell do you want me to do just go on like nothing ever happened witch is what he seems to be doing I think as long as he thinks nothing happened then it didnt. So all night long I thought to myself am I feeling sorry for my self is that why I can not move away from all these thoughts that creep there way through my mind every day every second. Some one help me hear I feel I am going nuts and I am not getting any better is this depression or is the feeling sorry for my self?
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MKO,
Your husband has a lot of nerve blaming YOU for anything!! He is lucky to have been given a second chance and his only goal in life right now, should be to offer you empathy, support and with humility, help you to recover from this trauma.
Having said that, none of the hspouses do this perfectly, but I want YOU to believe it! Then if he does not approve of the time it is taking for you to "get over it!", you can calmly say, "That is certainly not a very empathetic response. Please leave me alone, I will call a friend for support if you do not feel up to doing what you promised you would do!"
Or, if you are not that type, just say, "So sorry, I am sure you could handle my sleeping with another man much better. Please leave me alone for a few minutes while I pull myself together and put on a happy face!"
Whatever you do, keep in touch with DS. Listen to those above me, they are correct, your h is wrong. Trayma of this magnatude takes years, not months to fully recover from, according to some experts. Think about anti-depressants, many use them for a while after a trauma, I do.
Consider counseling, you need to be validated and for someone to take your feelings seriously. Lean on others, if he is unavailable but also think about making him be accountable. There are many bools on relationships that have been devastated by an affair. Get one that speaks to you. Ask him to read it so that he might be able to understand you better.
Lots of love
Nave