
Infidelity Support Group
Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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My husband had an "emotional" affair that he says only lasted a month. They have known and been talking to each other for several months but he says he just "fell in love" with her about a month ago. He has just ended the relationship with her and he says he is sure he wants to stay with me and our children. My problem is I know he is still grieving over his relationship with her. I don't know what to say to him or how to act around him. I am worried if I just act like everything is fine he will never get over his emotions properly BUT I am also afraid if I give him too much space and time he will decide I am not affectionate enough (which was the problem in our relationship before the affair) with him and he will leave for her. Any advice on what to do or how to act??
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As for me, I was in the exact same situation as you are (it would almost seem that I was writing it as my own), but anyways I can't really give you advice just let you know that I hope all works out with you.
think about this - you're worried about his feelings so he can move on.
think about this - what about your feelings.
think about this - when is he doing to ensure you properly grieve the damage to your relationship he caused.
theories to the contrary, we control our emotions. they are simply shortcuts for thoughts.
we don't just "develop" love for someone. we let it happen.
i had a number of emotional affairs during my relationship with my wife.
they were choices i made (and my own muddled thinking process is not an excuse).
he doesn't need grieving time. he needs to be refocusing on you, on your children, on the shared bonds of your marriage.
if he can't get over the affair, then he's not committed to you.
I wonder if you are inshock? It took me a couple of months, partly due to the fact that I took a trip and "got away", for the reality of my husbands affair to hit me!
Do you feel any grief? If you dont that is great but if you do, let your husband see it!
He needs to see that you hurt..if youdo. dont pretend, but show him how much pain you feel, if you do, and ask him to confort you. That will give him YOU to focus on.
I appreciate all the advice everyone is giving! I had a long talk with him last night and he told me he wants me to be myself and act normal around him and to show him how much I love him. So that's what I am doing and last night I think we were both happier than we have been in quite awhile.
I also had an "emotional" affair about 5 years ago and I have realized that I have never forgiven myself for that and I have been pushing him away because I felt like I didn't deserve him. I have realized now that I do and we are going to counseling to help me forgive myself and to help him get over the anger he built up towards me for pushing him away.
Thank you all! This group has helped me more than anything.