Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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Good Enough??

deleted_user
deleted_user
why did my boyfriend cheat on me?? why was i not good enough??? was i not pretty enough for him?? not skinny enough?? what's wrong with me?? i trusted him!! with all of my heart i trusted him!!! I slept with him that jackass did that mean absolutely nothign to him?? he says it had nothing to do with my looks and he doesn't think that she is prettier than me.. Do i even bother trying to believe him?? He hurt me so bad!! Am I not good enough?? Am I not a good enough girlfriend am I not a good enough friend??
tanjat
tanjat
I felt and still feel not good enough, but I think in most cases it is not so much about us as it is about them. My H told me in counceling that he was happy with me whe he cheated, we were not having any problems or were fighting or anything like that...as to why the reall reason why? Somethimes I wonder if he even knows. It is hard to understand for us because it is so personal and soo painfull. I dont understand why we do this to ourselfs, they screw up and we try to take the blame?
I am sorry you are going through this!
deleted_user
deleted_user
I don't think it has anything to do with you!
They can't seem to turn it down,,, I don't know why! They don't even think about us,, we never even enter into their minds... All they think about is the moment!
I feel very bad for you!!!
Hugs!
deleted_user
deleted_user
STOP beating yourself up !!! It isn't you. I've asked myself the same thing a million times plus. I've seen the other women (3) and I don't think pretty or classy has anything to do with it. Now cheap, sleazy & slutty has EVERYTHING to do with it. I can look in the mirror & know it wasn't me. When cheap trash is tossed out in front of a weak person their gonna "dig" through and see what they might find. Some people are just weak. GOOD LUCK !!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Wow. tearful said it all! I couldnt have worded it better!! They play you pay. Remember, "no has the power to make you angry unless you let them." Of course its still going to hurt, but not forever!!
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