I try not to hold the affair over his head. BELIEVE ME. But when he does certain things that remind me of the situation when he had an affair...I express that to him and I ask him not to do those things. But he says that he responds a certain way because of the way that I make him feel. I don't want to make him feel like that...so what do I do. I try calling him duering the day just to say hi. He does not even think about me during the day to give me a call. But he calls everyone else...even other friends that are females. But he doesn't think about me. When I do call him numerous times...he says he only sees that I call when he gets home. I think thats a lie..because he is ALWAYS in his phone. It makes me feel uncomfortable. What should I do??? He says that I am needee. I always need something or want something. He thinks that it makes me selfish. I don't want to be selfish or needee. I just want him to pay me some attention and act like he wants me and this marriage. He recently told me that he does not feel a connection and he is not "into" me. He sometimes feel like we should go our separate ways. I asked him last night, if he is feeling this way, what is he willing to do about it and what does he want or expect from me. He didn't answer...he says that me cornering him with questions does not make him feel like talking to me. I should answer my own questions. And that I did. But he won't answer me back. I HATE THE WAY WE ARE. I am terrified that he is not into me and does not feel like being around me. I feel like I am being to pushy to work on this marriage and he does not feel like dealing with it. But if I ignore the problem and withdraw...like he is ...he might end up cheating on me again. WHAT DO I DO?? I don't want to keep holding the affair over his head...but I don't want him to withdraw to the point that he might cheat on me again. I am afraid if I take the same approach and withdraw...another affair might happen.
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