I have suspected for quite a few months that my wife of 18 years was having an affair but had always hoped I was wrong. After recieving a couple of anonymous notes in my mailbox I decided to install a GPS tracking device in her vehicle. It only took 3 days and I found out my worst fears were true. Saturday night I sat outside of the home of her lover with her vehicle in the driveway as she told me over the phone that she was having dinner with a friend. After the crying and anger I saw an attorney on Monday and put financial guards in place. My main concern was our 2 teenage daughters. I have a troubled 16 year old and a fragile 14 year old.
Monday evening I confronted her with the evidence I had maps, dates, times, ect. I had a picture of her lover. Knew where he worked, etc. She was shocked at how much I knew about them. I thought I was ready to live my life without her.
She tried placing the blame on me. That I never showed her the attention she needed, etc. Even though if that was true I was not going to take responsibility for her decision to cheat. I told her if it was that bad, she should have just left or asked me to leave.
As our conversation went into the early morning hours I found myself standing on the cliff. Do I want her out of my life? I decided right then that I wanted to try to reconcile. I told her I was going to open myself up to be hurt again, but if I never gave it another try I would regret if for the rest of my life. She agreed and now we are going to try and work through this.
In August I had a severe illness that put me in the hospital for 10 days (4 in ICU). I woke up after a couple days with a tube down my throat. The surgeon said he was surprised I made it. My recovery took 4 months, but I'm healthy for the first time in many years. I am not a religous man, but consider this a second chance and a gift from God.
A gift from God is very precious thing. I told my wife we are getting one and we both need to help each other through this. I know it's not going to happen over night and that there will be some bumps along the way. In time I could forgive her, but will not forget what she did. But right now I am filled with hope that this will work out.
Six months ago I know I would have followed through and kicked her to the curb.
I did to do the dishes and I just dont want to or have the motivation to get them done I want them done i just done I just dont know.
Trying to make my fiance feel special, we have two kids and he works long hours everyday and I just feel like sometimes I can be alot to handle and I'm trying to make sure he feels appreciated and loved, any ideas?