first I want to say that I am new to this place, I in fact joined today. I would also like to let you guys know that English isn’t my first language so please forgive any grammatical errors you will inevitably find in this post.
So I found out that my wife of 8 years had been cheating on me for past month and half with someone she works with. She didn’t volunteer this information mind you I had discovered while going through her phone.
I had this feeling in my gut she was up to no good and I have been proven right, truth is I wasn’t the best of husbands, I was depressed for a while so I wasn’t there for her for half the time we were together, she stuck by me when most people would have packed their bags and left me ( through financial insecurity, lack of job etc.....) but thankfully I have snapped out of that after the birth of our daughter who is 18 months now.
Because of all the expenses we have we can’t afford to live off of just my income currently so she is still working with her AP, I’m sure I don’t need to tell you just how I feel about that.
she claimed that they have never slept together and have only kissed, I don’t believe her, but even if I did she had admitted to having strong feelings for him but she is adamant I’m the one she loves and will always love and only wants to be with me.
the truth is I don’t care that she stopped going behind my back and that she loves me etc..( I don’t think she does, you don’t cheat on someone you love ) my hurt is still the same. I do not trust her one bit, I thought she was the best person ever but she turned out to be one of the worst.
i have put on the good face for the past couple of weeks trying to work through it but the anger I feel inside is so much that it hurts, I just want to pack my bags and leave her so she suffers just as I did but I have been told in situations like these I shouldn’t act on emotions, I’m just so lost, I still love her but I can’t get over the fact that she had been doing this for over a month while pretending that everything was fine.
For those of you who have rebuilt your marriage after infidelity and betrayal, how did you do it? What did you do? What did they do? And for my own selfish benefit, I am really looking for the men who have survived their wife cheating on them. Is it worth it on the other end?I am still in a bit of a fog. I caught her last Sunday. But every day I feel like I have to make the decision again of...
I am looking for, something, maybe support, from any other Mormon couples on here. We are Mormon, and there are some unique challenges we now face due to my wife's infidelity and lying.We both struggle with trusting anyone in leadership in the church because we have both personal experience and seen first hand from friends and family, that no secret is ever really secret within the church. Church...