You should consider yourself blessed to have someone in your life who is able to forgive what has been done to him. Take this chance and make the most of your lives together. Remember to tell him how you are feeling, and he should do the same.

I'm glad he is forgiving you. Yes, it is time to work on forgiving yourself. And love yourself too. Sometimes I wonder if it's a lack of love that one has for themselves that gets them in these situations to begin with. I wish you both happiness and peace. *hugs*

Congrats! Glad to see things working out! That is wonderful news...

Forgiveness is so hard sometimes, but I believe it is necessary. I remember hearing someone tell me that when I refuse to forgive I keep MYSELF bound, not the other person. I think it's a little different in situations like these. But we have all seen what happens when someone allows things to permanenetly define their lives. depression, suicidal thoughts, whining, hellish bitterness. I am so glad that you and your husband are trying to take the forgiveness road, even though it is a hard road to travel. I hope things continue to get better and better.

I'm glad your husband has gotten this far. One thing that I've learned is that forgiveness is not really a one-time thing. It has to happen over and over again. I'm in the process of forgiving again. You and your husband will both cycle for a while. Things will be fine, then they'll come back up again. It's normal and it's okay. You just have to forgive all over again.

Thanks for all of the support on this. Things have been really rough... And there are ups and downs all of the time. And I definitely don't expect that to go away any time soon. But I am prepared to deal with them... I am giving this 110% and willing to do whatever it takes to make our marriage even better than it was before.

I think this is the most difficult thing to do .. of all .. even if our s/o does forgive us .. how do we go about forgiving ourselves ..

I'm working very hard .. on that one .. as well as trying to show her .. every day .. in every way .. I will not be making those mistakes again ..

A mistake of the past does not have to define us .. unless we let it define us ..

I am very happy for you both .. please .. stay connected to him .. tell him what you are thinking .. it will .. i'm sure .. help him ..

I am happy for you. You seem as if you really care and love your husband. I don't know if all the cheaters out there even care if they are forgiven!!

Bryce and I have always had an amazing relationship. Why I would go and try to sabatage our lives like that I will never fully understand. Maybe it was the abuse I endured as a child... Maybe it's my Bipolar... Maybe the PTSD... Maybe all three together... I don't know. But I am definitely willing to use this situation to our advantage to make our relationship and marriage even stronger.

That is wonderful for you! I am in a similar boat. My H forgave me about 10 months ago. I struggle with guilt and feeling unworthy. I also want to never forget what I did so it will never ever happen again. It is hard to balance it out. Enjoy this and be the best wife you can be to this wonderful man!