Infidelity Support Group

Any relationship in which one partner engages willfully in sexual relations with another outside of the partnership is considered to have experienced infidelity. This breach of trust is often traumatizing for the faithful partner as well as the relationship, and support is often needed to heal emotionally and to decide whether or not the relationship should continue after...

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deleted_user
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Tomorrow will mark the 1 year antiversary of the first day of the affair. It happened at a conference in R. I am struggling with this very much. I am told to not let the dates control me. But it's very hard. I know (at least I think I do) what happened 1 year ago tomorrow and it makes me sad. I had an outlet all lined up to get my mind off of things tomorrow but that just fell through. Now I don't know what to do. If anyone has any ideas, I'm open to anything.
deleted_user
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do something nice for youself.. I know massages and stuff are more for women but they can be relaxing..

go to a sporting event or shopping for something you need ..

just do something that you enjoy or if you have kids something with them that they enjoy... I wish you well and Take Care of YOU
betrayed4years
betrayed4years
I agree - do something for yourself - go to the mall and people watch - you can get a lot of laughs from it, especially when they don't realize they're being watched...LOL. {{{{HUGS}}}}}
deleted_user
deleted_user
Trying to ignore the date of something of this magnitude would not work, if you tried.

My advise, Honestly?
Surrender to it.

That does not mean you cannot go to a movie, but at the one year mark, I could not focus on a movie. Just accept that this is painful and overwhelming to you.

Write in a journal, spend the day with us on DS, call friends and whine, rent sad movies and cry.

This is a day of mourning and you have been wounded. Feel sorry for yourself.

Do know that next year it will be about 10 x less painful and the following year, about 100x less painful.

Distract yourself (or try) if that works for you.

Sometimes, I just like to stand there and face the monster, then you will know, it cannot kill you, it will make you strong.
deleted_user
deleted_user
there have been several threads here about this dreaded day, but i agree with everyone else.....do something nice for yourself. try to keep busy, i never realized how hard the one year anniversary of the worst day of my life would be. be good to yourself, and stay away from any sad movies or songs for the next couple of days, only listen to upbeat songs and shows that make you laugh your ass off, because-let me tell you, just one will send you over the edge. be happy and take care of you.
deleted_user
deleted_user
My prayers are with you... So very sorry for your pain!
Do something special for yourself and try not to think about it too much!!

Wish you the very bes!!
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