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Finding a lawyer

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Does anyone have any advice on finding a good divorce lawyer? All the advice I've seen points toward getting a referral from someone you know. I really don't have anyone close to me that has experienced a divorce. In addition, I'm not sure I'm ready to bring it up with anyone yet. Are their any good online sites/forums where I can find local people that provide information about their experiences, etc? Other than simply calling lawyers out of the yellow pages, I'm not sure how to start. Thanks.
special3
special3
Yes...google Martindale & Hubble. You'll find what you need there!
It's a legal directory of experts & services. It gives credentials!
FrankTheGreat
FrankTheGreat
Martindale Hubble is okay, but it's just a paid directory service. If you pay their listing fee, you get in, so it's not a barometer to how good someone is.

JerC, is there a free family law clinic at your local courthouse or Legal Aid? If so, I would suggest going down there and asking for referrals to a few attorneys.

Failing that, take some names from Martindale.

In either case, interview more than one attorney before settling on someone. And beware of someone who promises you the moon.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Trust your gut on this one. I chose a lawyer based on what I thought would give me the best shot in court, but I never felt comfortable with her in my gut. Right now, I'm kind of stuck because my retainer is about to run out with her, and I can't afford to hire another attorney. Sometimes I feel my STBX has two lawyers working for him, and one of them is mine. Also, consider what type of divorce process you want. Litigation isn't the only option - google "mediation" and "collaborative divorce" and see if those might be better choices for you. If you have kids, in general, the less rancor between their parents during a divorce, the better. I tried collaborative divorce, and I think I just chose the wrong attorney. The philosophy behind it appealed to me, but my STBX doesn't seem to be able to "collaborate" on this divorce.
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