I found out about my husbands affair almost four months ago. He left the day I found out and moved in with the OW the next day. We had a great marriage but had been busier than normal, he had just finished school, was looking for a new job, I had a new job, and we found out we had a new baby on the way. He was excited and seemed like all was ok just busy. My H parents had been divorced since he was 3 and he had never really asked them what happened until he left me and all of a sudden he was curious about it. I ended up finding out from his aunt that his mom had an affair on his dad. No one had ever talked about it and my H had no idea. I was not the one who told him but he did eventually figure it out. His dad was crushed but his mom refused to try anything to make it work and just gave up. My H has done the same thing, walked out on me both our kids and this baby with not really any remorse or guilt for the most part. He has never been a selfish person and now his whole focus is on himself and the OW. He barely ever sees the kids and during our marriage he was the greatest dad in the world (went on field trips, never missed Dr appts, took them fishing or whatever they wanted to do. He actually told me when he left that it didn't matter who he hurt or dissapointed as long as he was happy. So anyways my sister asked me the other day how old his mom was when this happened between them and we realized they were at almost the exact same age (28) and had been together almost the exact same amount of time we had been (9 years). I find this very odd especially since it like he has literally changed into a whole other person overnight. You don't even want me to start on the OW she has her own mental history a mile long and her own set of issues not to mention that she is almost 10 years older than we are. Unattractive, selfish, bankrupt, I could go on forever. I was just wondering what any theories might be to this or if anyone knows of any other coincidences. Thanks
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